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Moms and Maids
Felicia Arndt
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Maid of Honor is making my wedding her wedding... :(
My moh is my best friend since kindergarden. We have always known that she will be my moh and I will be hers. Well she is about 6 months out of a failed serious relationship and I am about 7 months away from my wedding. So instead of sitting around and thinking about how sad she is about her ex she has decided to throw herself into helping me with my wedding. Only problem is, she is way to overbearing.. I have A LOT done already and she keeps going out and buying things and changing things. She said she won't wear one of the dresses I picked because their "not her style" and she said that the center pieces I made are ugly so she litteraly just made her own using my stuff. She went into my gargage while I was at work and took out mason jars and made them the way she wanted them to be. She also took one of my table numbers which was freshly stained and filled it with royal blue sand (not even my color) and put a battery candle in it. (table numbers are little wooden buckets that my mom and I stained at painted the number on, so cute!!). So now the blue sand is dried into the stain... I hate colored sand and battery lights. She bought me a white silky dress to wear to my rehearsal dinner and I have to be honest, I HATE it... I'm trying not to be mean to her so I have been being a push over so I don't hurt her feelings, she is making the past month for me very stressful and unenjoyable.. What do I do?!
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Re: Maid of Honor is making my wedding her wedding... :(
What do you do? You stand up to her. Not in a mean, overbearing way, but you can't keep letting her do whatever she wants with your wedding.
LOL! Ok
I agree with everyone else here. You need to stand up to her. If you don't, your wedding will have everything she wants and not a whole lot of what you want. She had no right to go in your home without your permission. She probably means well, but it's out of control.
As for her BM dress - As long as its within the budget she set then and its not something that makes her uncomfortable, she needs to shut up and wear the dress. I went shopping with my sister, my MOH, when it was time to pick out her dress. She found several dresses that were within her budget and that she felt comfortable in. And then I picked the one I liked the most. She was happy and I was happy. I have been a bridesmaid and had no input on the dress whatsoever. I kept my mouth shut and wore the dress.
Tell her that you don't like the dress for the rehearsal that she bought. There is nothing wrong with having different tastes and styles. But you will be wearing it and she needs to respect that.
And I agree that she needs to be kept far away from any DIY projects since she refuses to respect your wishes and just does whatever she wants.
Good luck. She might try and call you ungrateful or that you don't appreciate her. Explain that you do appreciate her wanting to help but she has to listen to what you want.
southernbelle0915 - would you please stop using the "F" word? It is offensive to some of us.
Hello Professor Allispain - is it polite to swear?
jackman36
Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.......
OP, What the Fuck you need to put this woman in her place!
But YOURE the one who called her trash! Lolol. IT IS SPECIFICALLY PERMITTED. I'd rather be ignorant trash than a super-sensitive person who gets butthurt when strangers on the internet don't do what I want them to.
Back to the matter at hand...OP, I completely agree with PPs. You need to put your foot down. be firm and do not back down; she has no right to change things that you have already decide on and made just because she doesn't like them. She also has no right to break into your garage...that's a huge boundary. Good luck to you!