thank you cards you WISH you wrote

steveandrandi · October 2013

Anyone else wanna tell people what's they really think of the stunts they pulled at your engagement party/shower?

Do it here!!

www.thishadtobewritten.com

OliveOilsMom · October 2013

@KnotPorscha

mlg78 · October 2013

I don't know that this violates the TOS any more than anyone sharing a link about a bridezilla. It looks like a new website where you vent and say what you'd like to say in a thank you card. It's not a money making business venture. Did you even bother to look at it?

Viczaesar · October 2013

@mlg78, I would consider this spamming. It's linking to an outside service for the purpose of getting traffic there, and the OP posted it on two different boards.

mlg78 · October 2013

"Service"? I think that's a stretch...but to each their own.

OliveOilsMom · October 2013

If you check their posting history, they have had 2 posts and both of them were advertizing this service.

steveandrandi · October 2013

it's not a service. it's a blog. i'm a bride and thought it would be cool to share a place to vent in a creative way. my wedding is next week. i never posted before because it's just not my style. i'm pretty sure i'm not violating any terms of service.

lovesclimbing · October 2013

I looked at your blog. I won't even go into your "submit" page which is incredibly rude and condescending.

Of the two posts you have so far, both of them are thank you notes that are horribly rude and are saying guests are rude for doing things that are not rude.

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thank you for coming to my engagement party straight from work. i appreciated that after a full day of carpentry that you thought that you didn’t need a shower nor a change of clothes. Yes, maybe this wasn't the best for her to do, but which is more important? In my opinion, her being there is more important even if she was in work clothes. i know that my party was only at a small bar downtown, but we did state on the invitation that there would be an open bar and dinner served. you did go out of your way to ask my permission to bring your latest fling since i didn’t invite you with a guest, but did not manage to go out of your way to bring a gift. Gifts are not required, ever. It was rude of her to bring a guest but this is ambiguous on whether she brought a plus one (rude) or whether she brought someone she was dating (rude on the part of the bride for not inviting the SO) i guess you thought that open bar and dinner for you and the date that you probably never saw again didn’t cost us anything worth you even bringing a card to congratulate us. Again, gifts are never required. This bride should not have planned a party she couldn't afford and she shouldn't have expected that gifts would pay off the cost of the party. we also are really happy that you and unnamed girl of the week are in almost every picture that was taken that night. Whose fault is that? Sounds to me like it's the fault of the photographer(s). hopefully, you are equally as appreciative when your invitation to our wedding gets lost in the mail. It's incredibly rude to invite someone to pre-wedding parties and not invite them to the wedding.

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Dear friend of my future MIL

thank you for coming to my bridal shower. it was really awkward to meet you for the first time and do that handshake/hug thing. Yea, this was rude of the MIL to bring a random person. you stuck out your hand because we’re total strangers and i went in for the hug because it was my bridal shower and i was feeling all warm and fuzzy. This happens all the time. What's the big deal? I've done this myself. She should have laughed off the awkwardness and gotten over it. This bride needs to be a gracious host. it was great to get an accidental boob graze in there too. Again, it was an accident. I highly doubt she did it on purpose. i hope you weren’t as bored as you looked but i know you were annoyed we didn’t open presents. The whole point of a shower is to shower the bride with presents so yes, it's a bit annoying when the bride doesn't even open them. thanks for trying to stifle those yawns. You have no idea why she was yawning. Perhaps she had a late night, sometimes people yawn for no reason. i’m sorry but opening presents is lame. Why'd she have a shower? there are three types of presents at a bridal shower. 1)gifts i picked out myself because i registered for them and then i have to feign excitement for something i knew i was getting because technology is SO cool. 2)gifts i did not pick out myself that i have to feign excitement for because they suck. Wow, way to be appreciate of someone's generosity. 3)money, which is just weird to wave around and have my mom photograph me smiling with. Why would she need to be photographed with it and why ever would she wave it around? Just smile, say thanks, and leave it at that. therefore, i decided not to open my presents until i got home with my mother and sister so we could judge everyone in the privacy of my apartment. Again, this is incredibly rude. People spent money on her and all she can do is judge their gifts?

love,
the bride to be

p.s. your gift fell into category two. Again, this woman was generous with a gift. The bride should be appreciative of it. Most people get at least a few gifts they don't like. That's the way of life and she should appreciate the thought behind it and if she really can't use it, donate it, sell it or re-gift it.

JoanE2012 · October 2013

lovesclimbing said:

I looked at your blog. I won't even go into your "submit" page which is incredibly rude and condescending.

I agree. The submit page makes you look like an ungrateful and bitchy bride . I feel sorry for any of the guests at your wedding. Posted part below so people don't have to traffic to your site.

submit your own thank you card that had to be written

it’s inevitable.

as a bride-to-be, we’ve all received those gifts

that made us say, “WTF???!!!”

we’ve also received the “presence of our friends’ company” as a gift

and gifts from people that we know they sent “just to be polite.”

those are the ones who can barely take the time to sign their names on the cards.

and of course,

you have to write those people syrupy sweet and phony thank you cards.

fuck that noise.

here’s your chance to get off your chest what you really want to say to them -

KeptInStitches · October 2013

Plus knitting is therapeutic. Nothing like repeatedly stabbing your needles into the fabric to get out the tension. Oddly enough, needlepoint / cross-stitch works the same way AND is socially acceptable!

blueobsidian · October 2013

Greedy, judgmental, and a spammer? Awesome combination.

GypsyWife_ · October 2013

Thank you for posting @lovesclimbing and @joanE2012 I didn't want to click on her blog because she gets paid for it.

Viczaesar · October 2013

steveandrandi said:

it's not a service. it's a blog. i'm a bride and thought it would be cool to share a place to vent in a creative way. my wedding is next week. i never posted before because it's just not my style. i'm pretty sure i'm not violating any terms of service.

Advertizing your blog, to which you're trying to get additional posts? Both a service (not a good one, but a service nevertheless) and advertizing said service, which is indeed against TOS. Also, your attitude sucks big ones.

Lizzieyounce · October 2013

Delurking long enough to suggest that you perhaps need to purchase a book on manners and etiquette. May I suggest something by Miss Manners?

WildMagelet · October 2013

That was special. Whoever wrote those needs a reality check.

EverAfer · October 2013

GypsyWife_ said:

Thank you for posting @lovesclimbing and @joanE2012 I didn't want to click on her blog because she gets paid for it.

Me too.

lovesclimbing · October 2013

I forgot to add - Her "about" page said "I'm living in a material world and I'm a material girl. Judge me all you want."

WildMagelet · October 2013

lovesclimbing said:

I forgot to add - Her "about" page said "I'm living in a material world and I'm a material girl. Judge me all you want."

Done and done.

[Deleted User] · October 2013

Hey Everyone, just an FYI:

Linking to personal blogs is allowed as long as it is does not solicit any business. Just remember that this is a public forum, so its better judgement to be cautious when sharing personal information.

Liatris2010 · October 2013

Wow! You should make sure to include a link to your blog in your wedding invitation. It would be a shame for your guests to waste their time and money attending the wedding of someone who regards them with such contempt.

HisGirlFriday13 · October 2013

Just as an observation, @KnotPorscha... You have said that this doesn't violate the TOS, and of course you're right. But it does violate the unwritten code of conduct that we all expect and abide by. Our unwritten code is stricter than your written code, and yet we all willingly follow it.

I'm not saying you should change the TOS, but the KGs might want to realise that we police ourselves pretty well and we hold ourselves to a much stricter standard than we need to.

Also, just because this post doesn't violate TOS doesn't mean we have to welcome the OP's tackiness and shameless blog-whoring with open arms.