Our wedding is next month, November 2nd. Our parents have been
wonderful. My daughter is my Maid of Honor, my sister is my Matron of Honor and
I have two other bridesmaids. They've all purchased everything, have it and
have been great help. I also have five helpers for DIY projects, set up, break
down and other things that I need help with on the day of. All but one have
been awesome. My FI's dad is his Best Man and he has three other groomsmen plus
two ushers. Three of them have been great, the other 3 not so much.
My FI met with them yesterday to purchase their attire. We've
already purchased the groomsmen’s’ ties because they were custom made. Our
wedding is pretty laid back so the guys are just wearing white dress shirts,
ties, dress khakis and casual dress shoes. One of the groomsmen didn't show up
yesterday but did send my FI a text a couple hours before to let him know an
emergency came up. No big deal, we can work with that since they are getting
their attire from a local store off the rack and had plenty of everything. One
of the ushers was a no show and couldn't be contacted. We still haven't heard
from him at all. During shopping the usher that showed up asked why my FI
didn't order him a tie. My FI already let both the ushers know that they would
be wearing brown ties and if they didn't have one he would buy them one. He
also told the ushers that they could wear whatever white dress shirts, dress
khakis and casual dress shoes they had because he wasn't concerned about them
matching the groomsmen perfectly and didn’t want them to have to spend too
much. When the usher asked about the tie, my FI reminded him that he was going
to be wearing a brown tie and if he didn't have one my FI would get him one.
The usher didn't say anything else about it. Last night, 4 hours after they
finished shopping, My FI got a text from that usher cussing him out because he
thought it was rude that he wasn't getting a tie like the groomsmen and letting
us know we could find another usher. He also said that if we wanted him and his
girlfriend to come to the wedding that was fine but if not they wished us well.
My FI texted him and tried to call him with no response. He still hasn't gotten
a response today. My FI has been so upset and worried because he thought this
guy was a good friend. He doesn’t really know what to do. He has other friends
he can ask but he doesn’t want them to feel like a second thought. My brother
in law is stepping in as an usher for the one who was a no show. My FI actually
wanted him to be an usher to begin with but he’s in law enforcement school so
sometimes he has class on Saturday and he couldn’t commit at the time because
he didn’t know his schedule.
My helper who hasn't been a part of anything or really responded
to anything regarding the wedding decided to take it upon herself to plan my
bachelorette party all by herself. Sorry, NO, that's my sister's thing and my
sister has been very excited about it. After all, she is my Matron of Honor. I
told her she could ask my sister to help but instead she said with an attitude
that we could just tell her where to be and when and she would be there.
Whatever, she can do what she wants, I'm not going to get upset about it. She
just happens to be the usher's girlfriend who dropped out yesterday. She told a
good friend of mine that she was mad at me for not letting her plan the
bachelorette party and now her boyfriend drops out of the wedding? Hmmm…. I
guess when you’re planning a wedding, you really find out things about people
you never knew.
Any advice? Any similar experiences? To me this is just childish
and crazy. You don’t back out of wedding less then a month before because you
didn’t get your way on something that small. That messes everything up for
everyone else. Sorry this is such a long vent but if you read it all, thanks!
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