I am having an amazing situation happening. I have 8 girls in my bridal party, 3 sisters. When choosing my maid of honor, i did not choose a sister as there are 3 of them and two are actually matrons, so I didnt choose one of them, so the other 2 wouldnt get upset. I instead chose my best friend and our other best friend is helping her coordinate the shower. My one sister who feels she SHOULD be my matron of honor (tho i dont have a matron) is causing havoc. She keeps saying that her and my mom are doing things and the other girls shouldnt worry. My mom and her are NOT handling things, i called and asked my mother and this is an outright lie. I want my friends to be in charge, as they know what i like and want and they are very laid back, working with the other maids to keep it in a good budget and to keep it tailored to me. My one friend let me know that my sister is sending nasty grams to her and keeps trying to take over. This is taking all the fun out of the shower and making it awkward for my friends. These side emails are rude and she keeps trying to do everything, but she is lying about doing them just to take control. I do not want my sister to be in charge, as she is full of good intentions, but never executes, so my invites prob wont go out till a week before and NOTHING will be done for the shower if she is left to it (she has a history of doing this for other parties). AND that is NOT what i want, i want my MOH and maids to work together. I don't want my friends to be in an uncomfortable situation either. I have had to speak to my sister SEVERAL times now and let her know that she is making everyone uncomfortable and that i would like her to be involved but MOH and friend is in charge. She promised she wouldnt keep trying to take over, but here we are again. Do i ask her to not be involved and just show up day of the shower, as she apparently can't play well wiht others? Do i just say, forget the whole thing? Will there be tension between her and my friends and i'll have a lousy time or they will because of the tension?