How much is too much for a bridesmaid dresses?

[Deleted User] · October 2013

I found the bridesmaid dress i want my girls to wear but, they cost $180. Is that too much to ask my girls to put out for their dress? Should I buy the dress instead? Ideas?

KeptInStitches · October 2013

Well, it really depends on the budgets of your BMs. Have you asked them what they would be comfortable paying for a dress? If the lowest number is higher than $180, you're in luck! Otherwise if you're sold on this being the dress, you need to at least pay the difference between the lowest number and the cost of the dress, or pay for the dress outright. Good luck!

JCbride2015 · October 2013

You should ask their budget without telling them how much that dress is, otherwise they will feel obligated to say they can afford it. Just ask what they feel comfortable with and hope it's more than $180.

Maggie0829 · October 2013

What are their budgets? If $180 is higher then any of their budgets then you need to find a different dress or pay for their dresses yourself if you really want them.

ei34 · October 2013

The last two weddings I was in, the dresses cost $250 and $340. Both amounts were more than I like to pay, especially considering I disliked them so much that I donated them to charity the day I got them back from the dry cleaner after the weddings.

A reasonable amount, in my opinion, is in the $150 range. When I got married, I asked my two sisters (co-MOHs) and good friend (BM) to buy any dress they liked in any shade of purple. They have three different body types, not to mention different budgets, and in the end they all bought a dress that they liked and could afford.

Dreamergirl8812 · October 2013

I think anything over $160 is kind of ridiculous.

AddieCake · October 2013

Ask them each privately what their budget is. Personally, I wouldn't want to spend that much for a bridesmaid dress, but I'd probably do it if you made me and then bitch about you behind your back about it. That's why it's better to ask for a budget rather than decide for them what they will spend.

JMalettas · October 2013

I personally would be fine with paying around the $200 mark, if it included alterations. Not 'just' for the dress. For my wedding, the girls paid $134 with tax & shipping, and around $20 each for alterations. (Which was within their budget). Regardless of what I find appropriate for my budget though, it completely depends on your BM's budgets. You should ask them all separately, (not together as a group, to avoid making anyone feel guilty about their budget), & whichever is the lowest budget, that's the one you go with! You don't want any of your BM's over extending themselves, to purchase a dress. If you still want 'that' dress, you could pay the difference between the lowest budget, & the actual price, or purchase them yourself. If your budget doesn't allow for that, then I would say, start searching for another dress! There's *so* much out there, & eventually you're bound to find another that you love!

Good luck, & happy shopping!

*J

Blue_Bird · October 2013

It's out of my budget for something I didn't choose and won't wear again.

MyNameIsNot · October 2013

You need to ask each BM privately to give you a budget. If they all say $200+, this is fine. If anyone gives you a budget below $180, then this is too much.

IMHO, anything over $100-$150 is silly for a one time use dress.

doeydo · October 2013

That depend's on their budgets. You should have talked to them separately to find out their budgets, then find a dress within the lowest budget. You should not just ask them to pay $180 because some might be able to and other might not, but they will feel a pressure to.

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