my fi is catholic, me i was baptised catholic in my dads church but then when i was 5 my mom wanted to go back to her church armenian orthodox i have been raised in the christian church all my life. my fi really wanted to get married in his church so i agreed. he went to set up the stuff with the secretary and she informed him that the cut off for a saturday wedding is 1pm. our reception time starts at 7 and there was no way we would be able to have a 1pm wedding end at 2 and then a reception at 7 that would put out our guests and making it a supper long day for them. the out of staters would have to go back to the hotel and the locals would have to drive home then drive back later didn't want that.
at first my fi did not understand why i did not want them to wait, but then after us going to a wedding this past summer and things not starting on time and us having to wait for the ceremony to start and then head over to the reception he realized waiting even for a hour for things to finally start was not fun.
he ran into hs godmother at church and was telling her how the priest wont budge for a later ceremony which would have to start at 530 last mass ends at 5 he was afraid people would be upset that he chose another church and his godmother said no one will get mad i understand and she agreed that the church should bend a little bit and not make it hard for couples who choose to have evening weddings.
most places here the day weddings start at 12-5 for reception and evenings start at 630-7 very few places have earlier start times like 3pm but they are also out of our budget.
so i talked to him about my church and how its very similar to the catholic wedding ceremony we have the option to have the service all in english with only 4 minutes of it being in armenian or we could have the whole thing in armenian. we are going to do the english. plus we have no cut off or start time restrictions we could do a service at 430 to end at 530 receaving line till about 545-6 pictures close by and then our guest would have a 20 minute drive to the reception place by the time they get there get parked would be around 620 not a huge gap to wait plus everyone would congregate to the parking lot anyways to talk
anyways he still wants to go through the pre cana classes because he feels it would be go for us.
do we still need to do them ? he wants to invite his priest to my church would we need to have the classes if his priest is coming? in my church we have no such classes you meet with the priest and talk over details and such..
if we really don't need to do them i would be fine with it but he really wants to do them.