No bridal party

Re: No bridal party

• MobKaz member

  

  October 2013

  You say nothing unless the subject comes up.  If the subject does come up, the less you say, the better.  "FI and I have decided we prefer not to have any wedding party at all".  We are excited for you to join us on our day."  If they try to press you with questions, all you need to say is, "This is a decision FI and I feel works best for us."  Then change the subject.

  
  

  If they volunteer to help you with any of the planning, that's fine.  But they are under no obligation to do so, and it would be rude of you to ask them.

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• doeydo member

  

  October 2013 edited October 2013

  I wouldn't mention anything about it.  If anyone asks, just say that you are having a small wedding and have chosen not to have a wedding party at all.
  ETA Ditto mobkaz, don't expect them to help you plan the wedding or throw you showers.

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  October 2013

  Yeah, don't say anything and explain your decision if they ask. 

  
  

  It's not their job to help plan anything, however, bridal party or no. 

  

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• cwbys&angels member

  

  October 2013

  All the girls have expressed interest in helping plan and being involved, ONE girl clearly expects to be MOH. I know that one of the other ladies, who also had no bridal party completely understands and would help/ be there regardless. So on ONE hand I need to tell a friend no bridal party and know she will be devastated, and on the other I wanted a "fun" way to say "I'm getting married, will you be _____" I want her to help me plan, go dress shopping etc, which she would happily do, but since I'm not having a bridal party, what do I say? Thank you!

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• manateehugger member

  

  October 2013

  cwbys&angels said:

  All the girls have expressed interest in helping plan and being involved, ONE girl clearly expects to be MOH. I know that one of the other ladies, who also had no bridal party completely understands and would help/ be there regardless. So on ONE hand I need to tell a friend no bridal party and know she will be devastated, and on the other I wanted a "fun" way to say "I'm getting married, will you be _____" I want her to help me plan, go dress shopping etc, which she would happily do, but since I'm not having a bridal party, what do I say? Thank you!

  Well, you don't say anything to anyone - you can't really expect people to help you plan your own wedding. PLEASE don't give her some made-up title. She's either a bridesmaid or a guest. 

  
  

  You could talk some wedding details with her occasionally (e.g. I think I'm going to go dress shopping soon!) and see if she volunteers for anything (e.g. Yay! Who is going with you? - Well if you'd like to come, I'd love to have you!). 

  
  

  If she doesn't volunteer, she doesn't and you plan with your fiance.

  

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• ei34 member

  

  October 2013

  I'd simply tell them I'm not having a wedding party, you don't need to elaborate.  Don't ask for help though, those who would like to help will offer on their own.

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