KNOTTIE OF THE WEEK!!! @cidefi

Re: KNOTTIE OF THE WEEK!!! @cidefi

• cidefi member

  

  October 2013 edited October 2013

  Aaaww I feel so special!!! I love it. Some of the other boards are so mean. Thank you ladies :-)
  
  1. First Name & Fiance's First Name
  
  Cicely and Antwan
  
  2. Your Birthday & Age and Fiance's Birthday and Age
  
  August 22 - 38 (Leo) and June 24 - 43 (Cancer)
  
  3. City Born In?
  
  Louisville, Kentucky and Atlanta, Georgia
  
  4. City Live in?
  
  I'm in Louisville and he's in California
  
  5. Where did you go to college?
  
  The 1st time Indiana University, Indianapolis-Purdue Campus. Now I'm at University of Louisville BABY!!! He didn't go.
  
  6. What was your major?
  
  Print Jounrnalism the 1st time. Human Services right now.
  
  7. What is your current job?
  
  School is my primary job...LoL. But I make my money as a security officer at UPS. He drives city buses.
  
  8. What is your dream job?
  
  My dream job will be as a Therapist. When I finish school I will be a Clinical Certified Social Worker. My pet project is to up start a non-profit program for teenagers. Teach them how to cook, clean, safe sex practices, job hunting, how to dress, college goals, money management. As a Clinical Certified Socal Worker and parent, I think I'll have that skill set :-)
  
  9. How did you and your fiance meet?
  
  This story I've already told :-) We met on a Greyhound bus...LMAO. I was traveling to see my bestfriend (who was riding with me), and he was traveling home from visiting his bestfriend (in Boston). I had rented a car, but that fell through. Greyhound was Plan B. The bus was crowded and FH ended being my seat mate. What was suppose to be a 3 hour bus ride turned into a 7 hour ride because our driver was brand new (we were his 1st trip ever) and got lost. After a while everybody just starting talking to each other, mainly about me and BFF because they thought we were a couple...oh BFF is a man. They were trying to move around so that we could sit together. An older lady made a comment about him taking care of and protecting me on public transportation. How he was such a gentleman, and how lucky of a lady I was. She said she was disappointed that men weren't gentlemen anymore. Which actually was true. You see BFF lives in Nashville and he didn't want me driving alone, so he came home to drive me to his home...anyhoo FH and I made small talk, and at a rest stop, while I went to the restroom FH asked BFF if we really were only friends. BFF told him that we had a 20+ year friendship and that that ship had sailed, which was true. So when we got back on the bus he asked for my number (which pissed BFF off...LMAO). He texted me later on that night asking if we could have dinner together before I left, but I declined. I gave him my FaceBook info. And of course he friend requested me, and the rest is history. We dated long distance (me in Louisville him in Nashville) very quitely until he moved to California for a better job.
  
  10.  When did you get engaged and how did he do it??
  
  He had to leave Nashville and moved to California. He got a job out there. He's been gone a year and we've seen each twice. He asked and I accepted in August when he came home for my birthday. I don't have a ring yet, so I don't think its offical. And we haven't made this grand annoucement yet either. I do however have a ring budget from him and a ring picked out, and a wedding budget thus the planning has begun.
  
  11. When is the Wedding Day?
  
  Saturday, May 16, 2015 with a push back date to May 17, 2016
  
  12. Where is the ceremony and reception?
  
  The Muhammad Ali Center. We get the entire building because our wedding is at night on a weekend. The ceremony will be outside on the plaza, followed by an outdoor cocktail hour for an hour. Then as a surprise to our guest they get to walk around the museum and see the exhibits for an hour. Dinner service will be inside the penthouse hall overlooking the Ohio River. BTW his idea not mine...
  
  13. What are your wedding colors?
  
  Shades of Purples and Fuchsia
  
  14. Where are you honeymooning?
  
  Aruba, his pick
  
  15. Favorite wedding vendor so far?
  
  The MAC itself is by far our favorite thing. He is a huge Ali fan, so when it opened for weddings no questions were asked. The property is in a great location. We love water and wanted something outside, so the plaza is perfect. It has beautiful fountains all around, and being on the river, guest will stay cool. We won't need many decorations outside because Star Fountain will be our alter.
  
  16. Biggest wedding splurge?
  
  My biggest splurge is buying my bridesmaids their attire. I have a dress budget, but found my dress for only $200. Yep you read that right 2 HUNDRED BUCKS!!! So I decided to take the rest of the money and buy their dresses, jewelry, and shoes. He hasn't found his splurge yet.
  
  17. What is something you wish you could have at the wedding but don't?
  
  Ok yaw I'm crying...
  It's not something but someone. My sister. If I could have anything in the world it would be my sister Tomarra. She was my everything. She died 3 years ago in a house fire. We got trapped inside together on the staircase. I was able to go down and out, she went back up. She had Asthma and was overtook by smoke after she pushed her kids out a bedroom window. Her children are alive and well today because of her. She was the BEST MOTHER I ever knew. Like for real she was the black Mary Poppins...LoL...and she died being what she always wanted to be A MOM. I share my wedding day with her. I got on that Greyhound because of her, which allowed me to meet my Future. He has held me as I've dealt with my Past. Her presence will be there with us on that day. I have joint custody of her 5 children with their dad's, and they each have a special thing to do. My oldest nephew will walk my mom down the aisle, and my youngest nephew is the ring bearer. My 3 nieces will walk down the aisle together with her oldest daughter carrying her mothers bouquet which will be all white. She will put it in a vase at the alter because my sister will be a BM too, and a place setting will be at the family table too. The most precious thing to me is having her name embedded in my dress. My mother is a seamtress. She made all of our formal dresses in school (which I hated). So I didn't ask her to make anything for the wedding because I thought it would be fun to buy (we never had that boutique experience before). When I found my dress, I wanted to add my girls names into the body of the dress, but changed it to just my sister. My mom will hand stitch TOMARRA into my train. It won't be seen until you flip it over (lots of pics of that).
  
  Ok gotta stop crying and finish answering questions...
  
  18. Another knottie wedding you'd like to attend?
  
  Any 1 of yours. When I joined TK I came looking for feedback. As you all can read, imma talkie chick. I ask lots of questions and post a lot about my own wedding to see if my ideas will work. What looks right in head might not be doable in real life. I hadn't found this board at yet, but was posting in others. Those women were itches!!! And I don't even call women that. I tried to deactivate my account because my feelings were hurt, and I was frustrated. But then I found AA Weddings....ding ding ding my heaven!!! I would love to see everybody's day all finished. We plan for so long over all these details. I would just like to see the end product. And get some cake. Imma fat chick and fat chicks lloovvee cake :-)
  
  19. Favorite book?
  
  Molly, she is my wedding book
  
  20. Favorite movie?
  
  It use to be Pretty Woman, but I don't think I have 1 now. I just enjoy going to the movies. I need my popcorn, funnelcake, and alcoholic beverage...I'm good :-)
  
  21. Favorite tv show?
  
  SCANDAL!!! And then Grey's Anatomy. Oh and Big Bang Theory. I even changed my work schedule to be home Thursday night's.
  
  22. Favorite wedding dress designer?
  
  Don't have 1 (I think this is my shortest answer)
  
  23. Any advice you can give?
  
  Marriage Advice: Get married when you really know yourself. When you know what your capable of doing. Get married when he pushes you to be better, to be greater without ever knowing it. Know that LOVE is not the end game, its not everything. However it is the most important thing (and good sex). Marriage is WORK and an EVERYDAY CHOICE, and the story continues after HAPPILY EVER AFTER. GOD 1st, HUSBAND 2nd, everybody else should fall in place accordingly.
  
  Wedding Advice: It's 1 day of the rest of your life. Don't blow your budget. Know how to say NO. Know when to say NO. Stand your ground with your FS together. Don't be pushed around. Everybody is not going to stay as excited as you...not even you. Your dream wedding might not be you reality wedding, but it will be your most meaningful wedding whenever you remember for who your doing this with and why.
  
  24. Anything you wish you could change about your wedding?
  
  Well see once I start telling people the plans.
  
  25. Share something about yourself!
  
  I think I shared enough!!! :-) :-) :-)

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• island07b2b member

  

  October 2013

  Hi Cicely,
  
  I really enjoyed reading your answers.  You seem so grounded and level headed.   The story of your sister is heartbreaking but what you have planned to honor her in the wedding is absolutely beautiful. 
  
  Funnel cake?  - Gurl, I am right there with you.  I so enjoy funnel cake. 
  
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• LeciaB member

  

  October 2013

  Hi Cicely,

  Thanks for sharing that with us.. that was awesome... God Bless your and thank you for sharing the story about your sister.. she was a brave and beautiful mom and woman.. and that awesome the kids will be represented... That dress was a steal.. also SN.. Whick ring did you end up selecting out of the 4 you showed us?

   

  
  

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  October 2013

  Cic,
  
  nice to finally meetcha
  
  oh girl, what you shared about Tomorra.  Both of you, your courage. I'm so sorry.  Losing someone kind of puts the rest of everything in perspective.  Love the way you're keeping her with you on your wedding day. 
  
  I got some follow ups.  :DD
  
  did you say you love cake?  p.s. you neither have to be a fatchick nor have an inner fatchick to do this, never justify your pastry obsession, it needs no explanation LOL!!!
  
  ok, I hafta know - why was your bestie mad when 'twan asked for them digits.  i'mma get in yours for a sec, one of my best is a dude too, bout the same length of time and he likes the phrase that ship sailed, but there was NEVER a ship!  lol.  so. now.  does he mean he missed his opportunity or was never even close?  answer in any order you prefer. 
  
  love the marriage advice.   she said:  don't forget the shaggery, it's important too. bwahahahahaha!
  
  oooh, I knew I forgot one - why'd you say no when FH asked you out?
  
  ok, s'all I got.  good to see you come out from behind the curtain. 
  
  
  
  
  

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• cidefi member

  

  October 2013

  LeciaB said:

  Hi Cicely,

  Thanks for sharing that with us.. that was awesome... God Bless your and thank you for sharing the story about your sister.. she was a brave and beautiful mom and woman.. and that awesome the kids will be represented... That dress was a steal.. also SN.. Whick ring did you end up selecting out of the 4 you showed us?

   

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• cidefi member

  

  October 2013 edited October 2013

  sultryzulu said:

  Cic,
  
  nice to finally meetcha
  
  oh girl, what you shared about Tomorra.  Both of you, your courage. I'm so sorry.  Losing someone kind of puts the rest of everything in perspective.  Love the way you're keeping her with you on your wedding day. 
  
  I got some follow ups.  :DD
  
  did you say love cake?&nbsp p.s. you neither have to be a fatchick nor have an inner fatchick to do this, never justify your pastry obsession, it needs no explanation LOL!!!
  
  ok, I hafta know - why was your bestie mad when 'twan asked for them digits.  i'mma get in yours for a sec, one of my best is a dude too, bout the their length of time and he likes the phrase that ship sailed, but there was NEVER a ship!  lol.  so. now.  does he mean he missed his opportunity or was never even close?  answer in any order you prefer. 
  
  love the matriage advice.   she said:  don't forget the shaggery, it's important too. bwahahahahaha!
  
  oooh, I knew I forgot one - why'd you say no when FH asked you out?
  
  ok, s'all I got.  good to see you come out from behind the curtain. 
  
  
  
  
  

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  FOLLOW UP ANSWERS...LOL
  
  I love sweets!!! Cake, pie (not fruit filled though), donuts, cupcakes, Iil' Debbie cakes, CANDY!!! I'm on some FPS (fat people shit)...LoL
  
  There was a ship and Bestir was the 1 who sunk it. He is an old BF from HS. He went to the Army and then on to college, met his wife started a family so on and so on. I went to college, did the Airforce thing, got married too. About 10 years ago I ran into his wife, their marriage was falling apart, my marriage was falling apart, and we just reconnected and fell back into our friendship. After the divorces, we tried as couple for a hot minute but HE not me decided he wanted a friend not girlfriend. I respected his decision and still love him, but I let go and moved on. And that was him seeing me move on. I flirted with FH, and giggled at all the right moments. And did all the dumb things girls do when their nervous. I even tried to clean up when got to the rest area. I swear getting on that bus was so last minute. I had on joggers when we went to pick up the rental. When that fell through me and smartphone went to work. I found a bus leaving Louisville and bought tickets, but had 1 hour to get back home, pack a bag, change my clothes and get to the bus station. My mom had my car so we was traveling by city bus. When we got to the GH station my hair was pulled up in hair clip, NO MAKEUP on, this throw together outfit, and some ballarina flats. FH will tell you I looked beautiful but i so did not. To answer your question...HE DECLINED HIS OPPORTUNITY. This part of the story, i didn't know, but Antwan asked him if he could ask for my number at the rest area. He said alot of people claim to be friends, but are really butt buddies. He didnt want to disrespectful or start some mess. But BFF told FH to go for it thinking that I would say no. Ha fooled him sucka butt!!!
  
  I declined dinner when he asked because I wanted some peace and quite. My sister had just died 6 months earlier. I had entered into graduate school anyway instead of postponing. Her birthday had been about 2 weeks earlier. We were looking to rebuild. I just had a lot on my plate at the time. I wanted to run away and sleep for a while and BFF's house was the place to go. A different city, a different state. Dating was the absolute last thing I wanted to do. But he was a cutie :-D

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  October 2013

  Lurve!!
  
  still giggling at Molly.
  

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• tirathemrs member

  

  October 2013

  cidefi OK first off... girl i was all welled up with tears reading about your sissy... that was soooo sad omg i think the way you are preserving her memory at your wedding is such a great way and i must say that is soo beautiful.. God bless you and you family especially them kids... (tears)

  
  

  And IF LOVING CAKE AND OTHER PASTRIES IS WRONG I DONT WANNA BE RIGHT!!!! lol i soo feel you on this one... ive been craving some peach cobbler for the last couple of weeks LAWD i gots ta get me sum ASAP!!!

  
  

  The story of how you and the future hubby met is very nice and it was great that you two are really great friends i think that makes the relationship sooo much better... I wish you all the luck in the world and thanks for being KOTW!! SMOOCHES

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

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• cidefi member

  

  October 2013

  TY you ladies for choosing me to be KOTW. I had so much fun answering all the questions, and I'm so glad you all enjoyed my answers. Thank you for the blessings and well wish as well. I realized after my sister died that we as a family would have to find ways to honor her just so that her babies would remember her (3 of her kids was under age 3 when she died). So every year we write letters to her at Christmas, they seal their letters, and we take them to the cemetery in a gift wrapped box. The little kids think they go to heaven, but really I go back and get the box date it with the year save it until 1 day we're ready to read them. We all have dinner together on her birthday at her favorite restaurant, and I try to put together a small something for her friends every year. I found a shirt of hers at the fire site, its in a bag right now, but as her children have events in their lives, I will cut a piece off and sew into their prom outfits or cap and gowns. At 16 they will each get a piece of jewelry with a T on it. These are small little things that the outside world won't understand, but our family will. I could talk about her, and the 8 IS ENOUGH CREW forever (her 5 and my 3) but I've talked alot already. Anyhoo thanks again :-D You ladies have wonderfully blesses days!!

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• footballwife77 member

  

  October 2013

  Hi Cicely! nice to meet you!!! your story is HEARTBREAKING!!!!! MY goodness!!! I almost fell apart reading that.
  

  

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• footballwife77 member

  

  October 2013

  cidefi said:

  TY you ladies for choosing me to be KOTW. I had so much fun answering all the questions, and I'm so glad you all enjoyed my answers. Thank you for the blessings and well wish as well. I realized after my sister died that we as a family would have to find ways to honor her just so that her babies would remember her (3 of her kids was under age 3 when she died). So every year we write letters to her at Christmas, they seal their letters, and we take them to the cemetery in a gift wrapped box. The little kids think they go to heaven, but really I go back and get the box date it with the year save it until 1 day we're ready to read them. We all have dinner together on her birthday at her favorite restaurant, and I try to put together a small something for her friends every year. I found a shirt of hers at the fire site, its in a bag right now, but as her children have events in their lives, I will cut a piece off and sew into their prom outfits or cap and gowns. At 16 they will each get a piece of jewelry with a T on it. These are small little things that the outside world won't understand, but our family will. I could talk about her, and the 8 IS ENOUGH CREW forever (her 5 and my 3) but I've talked alot already. Anyhoo thanks again :-D You ladies have wonderfully blesses days!!

  and here i go again!!! ::grabs kleenix::
  

  

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• cidefi member

  

  October 2013

  Don't cry!!! I saw her everyday of our lives except when she went away to college and I went to flight school, never knew how important she was until she died. Never thought I'd say "she died" before I said "their dead" meaning our parents. I really could talk about her forever. She was beautiful and smart and funny, and I miss her. But I'm at point now where I can talk about her and laugh so hard and not get sad or cry. My life is moving on without her on this earth with me, but I carry her in everything I do. Life is so short and so precious. We move through it like we have all time in the world or so fast that we never even see it. That was me never enjoying anything because I was too busy waiting for that perfect moment to happen, the right man to come, enough money for whatever, but there is nothing more humbling, more life altering then watching your house burn to the ground with everything you love inside even a sister. I don't mean to go on and on, and TK is not Cicely time, and I really don't want to make people cry, but I realized that the perfect moment would never come. That I would never have enough money, that friends come and go, beauty fades, houses burn, and people die. And even though I might stand still life does not. She wouldnt want me to not breathe, to not live, to not love. So hurting, grieving, missing her I got on that Greyhound bus, I sat next to a handsome gentleman who said hello to me and I said hello back :-D. Before the fire Plan A was all there was and if that didn't work well it just didn't happen. That bus was Plan B. And instead of dismissing a handsome man as being polite, I flirted back :-D Its been a long rode for us, 3 states, 13 kids, career changes, pre gradute school, ex drama, new drama...LoL...but I will survive, GLADLY and enjoy every frustrating minute of it. I've slowed down enough to see life, but I move fast enough to keep up. Bad things will always happen. But so will good things. And right now my good thing is getting married.
  
  Anyhoo enough enough enough of the emotional stuff. I promise no more long speeches.

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• MrsBad13 member

  

  October 2013

  Nice to meet you Cicly...I love that name. Girl..I.got all chocked up and teary eyed...I love the way you're incorporating your sister into your big !! Love how you met your FH you never known where love will find you..so sweet! !

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• cidefi member

  

  October 2013

  TY MrsBad13. Named after Cicely Tyson, and it was not a cool name to have when "The Color Purple" came out...LoL

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• Soon to Be Mrs Jay member

  

  October 2013

  Welcome!!! Congrats on your engagement. Your story was great to read. I look forward to communicating with you more and seeing how your wedding plans blossom.

  

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• cidefi member

  

  October 2013

  TY Soon to be Mrs Jay

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• Senecaf member

  

  October 2013

  Oh your story. I too got choked up. Thanks for sharing all of that with us. It is so nice to know more about you!

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