Announcing our siblings into reception?

climbingsingle · October 2013

We're only having a MOH and a BM. FI's BM is not his brother. We both have one younger brother. I want to honor our brothers some way during the reception. Would it be weird to have them announced into the reception with their dates, either before or after the MOH and BM?

AprilH81 · October 2013

I think it would be weird since they aren't in the bridal party. Can't you just have them be part of the bridal party?

WonderRed · October 2013

We aren't doing any bridal party so we identified our siblings who are attending in the program, below our parents. But I know you're doing a private ceremony so that wouldn't work for you. (So why did I just type all that. I need coffee.) Are you doing toasts? Can whoever does them from your respective sides of the family recognize them?

katieg520 · October 2013

Ohhhh toasting your siblings is a great idea!

climbingsingle · October 2013

WonderRed said:

We aren't doing any bridal party so we identified our siblings who are attending in the program, below our parents. But I know you're doing a private ceremony so that wouldn't work for you. (So why did I just type all that. I need coffee.) Are you doing toasts? Can whoever does them from your respective sides of the family recognize them?

We might be doing toasts. I haven't decided yet. That would be a good idea though!

climbingsingle · October 2013

AprilH81 said:

I think it would be weird since they aren't in the bridal party. Can't you just have them be part of the bridal party?

Unfortunately FI is pretty set on only have a best man. We're not having a traditional ceremony either.

SBmini · October 2013

If you just announce you, your MOH and BM and then your brothers, it may be a little odd. BUT if you announce you, your MOH and BM, your parents and your siblings, I think that would work.

climbingsingle · October 2013

SBmini said:

If you just announce you, your MOH and BM and then your brothers, it may be a little odd. BUT if you announce you, your MOH and BM, your parents and your siblings, I think that would work.

We were planning on announcing our parents too.

MairePoppy · October 2013

I wouldn't think it was strange to announce your brothers and their escorts. It's nice that you want to honor them.

Dreamergirl8812 · October 2013

Do your brothers want to be announced? It seems like a lot of guys wouldn't be stoked about that.

JoanE2012 · October 2013

Dreamergirl8812 said:

Do your brothers want to be announced? It seems like a lot of guys wouldn't be stoked about that.

Ditto. If I wasn't part of my sister's wedding party, I would've felt weird being announced at the wedding. Included as a one liner in a toast (ie - Thanks to my sister JoanE for always being there, blah blah) would be totally ok with me.

erinlin25 · October 2013

I think it would be weird to announce them since they are not in the wedding party, but would be nice to mention them in a toast.

MrsLillyG · October 2013

I think its fine to announce them into the reception if they want to be!

climbingsingle · October 2013

Dreamergirl8812 said:

Do your brothers want to be announced? It seems like a lot of guys wouldn't be stoked about that.

Honestly, I could see both guys liking being recognized at the reception. We only have a best man and and MOH, so it's not like there's an entire wedding party and they're just not in it.

jlazgrl · October 2013

I don't think it would be too strange to announce them. We are announcing our grandmothers into the reception (they aren't in the wedding party). My grandmother really, REALLY wanted to be announced, lol. And since she paid for about 1/3 of the entire wedding, there was no way I was gonna tell her no.

AddieCake · October 2013

I think it's odd to announce people if they are not in the wedding party. As a guest, I would find it curious.

melbelleup · October 2013

I wouldn't side-eye it, but it would be odd. I really like the idea of having them in the toast though.

photokitty · October 2013

We didn't have a WP, except a flower girl and ring barer. We also didn't have programs.

We introduced our parents and siblings (and their SOs) at the reception.

I wanted people to know who was who as our families had never met before. No one seemed to think it was odd. Everyone clapped to the music and seemed to like it. I figured it would clear up who was who. I say go for it...but then I did so I'm biased

misssunshine17 · October 2013

I think it's weird you're doing any announcing since this won't take place after your ceremony.

climbingsingle · October 2013

misssunshine17 said:

I think it's weird you're doing any announcing since this won't take place after your ceremony.

Why is that weird? It's a private ceremony the day before. I guess maybe we shouldn't do a first dance either, according to you?

misssunshine17 · October 2013

ClimbingBrideNY said:

misssunshine17 said:

I think it's weird you're doing any announcing since this won't take place after your ceremony.

Why is that weird? It's a private ceremony the day before. I guess maybe we shouldn't do a first dance either, according to you?

Actually, yes. I, personally, feel you should do that stuff with the guests you have present on the day you get married. This party after, to me, shouldn't be a reception filled with the common wedding practices since you chose not to have those guests at your ceremony.

climbingsingle · October 2013

misssunshine17 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

misssunshine17 said:

I think it's weird you're doing any announcing since this won't take place after your ceremony.

Why is that weird? It's a private ceremony the day before. I guess maybe we shouldn't do a first dance either, according to you?

Actually, yes. I, personally, feel you should do that stuff with the guests you have present on the day you get married. This party after, to me, shouldn't be a reception filled with the common wedding practices since you chose not to have those guests at your ceremony.

Well, I completely disagree. Do you understand the reason we're having a private ceremony? Or are you just judging me with out having all the facts?

kitty8403 · October 2013

OP, this last part of the conversation is touching on a super-controversial topic as far as these boards go--it sounds like this event is being called out as a PPD, which is very unpopular on the etiquette forum. Lurk a bit. :-)

With regard to your actual question, at a wedding reception, I would say this probably depends in part on how formal and large your event is. If it's very formal and a couple hundred people, I would be less weirded out by a lot of people being announced. The smaller and less formal it is, IMO, the fewer people should be announced, because there's a point where it starts pushing ridiculous. Honestly, we are going for semi-formal and a crowd, and I'm still somewhat embarrassed to even have ourselves announced! Toasting is a good compromise.

ETA: another option might be to have someone like the best man introduce them during his speech and give them a chance to say a few words.

climbingsingle · October 2013

kitty8403 said:

OP, this last part of the conversation is touching on a super-controversial topic as far as these boards go--it sounds like this event is being called out as a PPD, which is very unpopular on the etiquette forum. Lurk a bit. :-) With regard to your actual question, at a wedding reception, I would say this probably depends in part on how formal and large your event is. If it's very formal and a couple hundred people, I would be less weirded out by a lot of people being announced. The smaller and less formal it is, IMO, the fewer people should be announced, because there's a point where it starts pushing ridiculous. Honestly, we are going for semi-formal and a crowd, and I'm still somewhat embarrassed to even have ourselves announced! Toasting is a good compromise.

I know exactly what a PPD is. And I know all the controversy surrounding it. Trust me - this is not even close to a PPD.

kitty8403 · October 2013

ClimbingBrideNY said:

kitty8403 said:

OP, this last part of the conversation is touching on a super-controversial topic as far as these boards go--it sounds like this event is being called out as a PPD, which is very unpopular on the etiquette forum. Lurk a bit. :-)

With regard to your actual question, at a wedding reception, I would say this probably depends in part on how formal and large your event is. If it's very formal and a couple hundred people, I would be less weirded out by a lot of people being announced. The smaller and less formal it is, IMO, the fewer people should be announced, because there's a point where it starts pushing ridiculous. Honestly, we are going for semi-formal and a crowd, and I'm still somewhat embarrassed to even have ourselves announced! Toasting is a good compromise.

I know exactly what a PPD is. And I know all the controversy surrounding it. Trust me - this is not even close to a PPD.

I think some women have stricter definitions than others, and then threads get hijacked.
Are you doing programs or any literature on your tables? That would be another nice way to mention family.

kitty8403 · October 2013

ClimbingBrideNY said:

kitty8403 said:

OP, this last part of the conversation is touching on a super-controversial topic as far as these boards go--it sounds like this event is being called out as a PPD, which is very unpopular on the etiquette forum. Lurk a bit. :-)

With regard to your actual question, at a wedding reception, I would say this probably depends in part on how formal and large your event is. If it's very formal and a couple hundred people, I would be less weirded out by a lot of people being announced. The smaller and less formal it is, IMO, the fewer people should be announced, because there's a point where it starts pushing ridiculous. Honestly, we are going for semi-formal and a crowd, and I'm still somewhat embarrassed to even have ourselves announced! Toasting is a good compromise.

I know exactly what a PPD is. And I know all the controversy surrounding it. Trust me - this is not even close to a PPD.

I think some women have stricter definitions than others, and then threads get hijacked.
Are you doing programs or any literature on your tables? That would be another nice way to mention family. ETA: what I mean is a little place card type thing at each table, saying "We would like to thank blah blah blah" would be inexpensive but inclusive.

climbingsingle · October 2013

kitty8403 said:

kitty8403 said:

OP, this last part of the conversation is touching on a super-controversial topic as far as these boards go--it sounds like this event is being called out as a PPD, which is very unpopular on the etiquette forum. Lurk a bit. :-) With regard to your actual question, at a wedding reception, I would say this probably depends in part on how formal and large your event is. If it's very formal and a couple hundred people, I would be less weirded out by a lot of people being announced. The smaller and less formal it is, IMO, the fewer people should be announced, because there's a point where it starts pushing ridiculous. Honestly, we are going for semi-formal and a crowd, and I'm still somewhat embarrassed to even have ourselves announced! Toasting is a good compromise.

I know exactly what a PPD is. And I know all the controversy surrounding it. Trust me - this is not even close to a PPD.
I think some women have stricter definitions than others, and then threads get hijacked. Are you doing programs or any literature on your tables? That would be another nice way to mention family. ETA: what I mean is a little place card type thing at each table, saying "We would like to thank blah blah blah" would be inexpensive but inclusive.

I wasn't planning on doing any literature at the tables. But that's a cute idea!

SP29 · October 2013

As to your original question, I have seen where the immediate family members also take part in the processional, before the MOG and MOB are seated. At the most recent wedding I was at, the officiant announced that the B&G's families would begin the processional, but did not individually announce them as they came in.

FI and I are going to do this as well, parents and siblings will take part in the processional (FSIL will walk down with FFIL, my brothers will be escorting my mother in), but we will not formally announce them.

mimiphin · October 2013

I can second @ClimbingBrideNY

I have seen her around on the boards before and it was decided/discussed that she isn't having a PPD.

What if you announce the Parents, Siblings, Bridal Party then Mr.Mrs Climbing?

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