My fmil's group of friends have a tradition in which one always hosts the bridal shower, one the baby shower, and so on. When fh and I were at our engagement party (this was almost a year ago and less than two months after we got engaged), fmil and her friends were talking about shower and I think I just said I was excited and appreciated any and all efforts...
My sister and best friend are co-MOHs and both planning to be very involved in the shower and very excited about it! So when we set a date for it, I also let fmil know. I was surprised when she texted me the next day saying the shower was now scheduled and that she wouldn't be doing much of the planning because 'the group wouldn't let her' and that she'd check with the person in her group that does the bridal showers. I asked for the number of that lady or email and texted her to explain that my sister and best friend are planning to play a pivotal role in this planning. She was out of town so we are going to talk this week. So, I guess my questions are: did I give the ladies the green light to handle everything with what I said at engagement party, and if so, how can I clarify that now? How do I show that I really appreciate them wanting to do this, but want my mohs (and bp if they also want) to be just ad if no more involved in the planning and not sound like an ungrateful bridezilla? Am I worrying about it too much because I'm afraid if I don't handle it now my MOhs will be not very involved and upset about that. Should I just let my MOHs handle it even though they don't really know these women? I've talked to my fh about it and he says he understands and supports whatever I do here but I'd really appreciate any additional opinions!