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Honeymoon shower

So today I was having lunch with FI and FMIL and she goes "I was discussing this with my sister and we were thinking of having a shower for everyone to come to, guys and girls, and it could be travel themed and it could go towards your honeymoon." (My Mom and aunts asked her if she wants to be included in planning the shower. So she doesn't even have complete control to dictate it.)

She continued on that we could ask people to bring cash for the honeymoon "I think it's called a greenback shower" or I could register with my travel agent. I responded that our honeymoon has already been booked and paid for, and a more traditional style might be more my speed. She was baffled "but how did you PAY for it?? You aren't planning on using your cash gifts from the wedding??"

I responded we paid for it ourselves, as we always planned to and changed the subject. She thinks I'm being snobby. Ughhhh can it be April already?
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Re: Honeymoon shower

  • Ha ha! Paying for your own vacation is snobby. How did Miss Manners miss that one?
  • What??? How is paying for your own vacations snobby?

    And I think a honeymoon shower would be one of the tackiest things I've ever seen. 
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  • PDKH said:
    What??? How is paying for your own vacations snobby?

    And I think a honeymoon shower would be one of the tackiest things I've ever seen. 
    ^^^ This. But it does sound like something my FMIL would say. If I don't take her ideas on something, she thinks I'm snobby or whatever.
  • Yes she really doesn't like when I don't agree with her. She also said I'm "cheapening out" when she found out I wasn't getting our invitations embossed. But obviously I'm just being a snob by spending the money I saved on my invited on our own vacation instead. Just craziness.
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  • Wow, who is this woman. First you're snobby for paying for your own vacation, and then you are cheap when you don't want unnecessary frills on your invitations.

    And why would she want to open your shower to guys and girls? Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure that the majority of men would never go to one. Was she doing this just so that you'd get more gifts?
  • @aurorajanette yes, she figured inviting the guys would mean more cash. My FI said there was no way in hell we are doing a Jack and Jill shower, and certainly not one asking for cash.
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