I just got engaged and I'm already having wedding planning drama. I'm a native California girl and my fiancé is a Jersey boy. We live in Jersey now and plan to have our religious ceremony and small wedding reception in California. We wanted to host a party for his extended family and family friends in the next few months for all those that we know won't make it to the California ceremony, which will be June 2015.
How should we inform our party guests that our wedding will be small and with immediate family only without offending anyone? Should we still invite everyone to the California wedding even if we know they won't come? Any suggestions on how to present this to our guests? When and how should guests be informed? Help! I want to include everyone important but it's hard to do so because of the location of our actual wedding.