I think I'm going to scream! I'm a responsible adult with a good handle on my likes and dislikes, and my values and beliefs. Why then do people keep telling me my decisions are wrong?
Not wearing make-up on your wedding day? I think you might want to reconsider. It'll look better for pictures, you want to feel special on your day etc. etc. Anyone else have a reason to tell me that my decision is the wrong one?
Not using birth control after the wedding? You may want to wait a year, or at least 6 months. You want time to get to know each other before you have kids. to this I say I already know my soon to be husband, and it is our belief that God has a plan for our lives and we have given control of our lives to him, why then would i hold back such an important area. God knows when he will bless us with children, so it's not my desire to fight or block what He has in store for me.
You don't want alcohol at your wedding? Okay we'll pay for the open bar and tell you that it's your choice what you want. We make the decision for beer, wine and coolers (no mixed drinks) and to just serve wine during the dinner hour. A few months down the road and I hear from FI, oh their getting mixed drinks as well. ARG! Thanks for paying for the bar, but why did you ask us what we want if you're just going to do what you want anyway?
Making your own wedding cake? You're going to be busy the week of the wedding, do you really want to do that? Yes, otherwise we would've hired a baker!
(NWR): You want how many children? You know kids are a lot of work, you'll change your mind once you have one. No, no I won't I've worked with children for over half my life, and have been very involved in my nieces and nephews lives, I know how much work children are. It's also been my desire since I was a little girl to have a big family, when I was asked what I want to be when I grow up I would always say 'a mommy'. This is what I want to do, and FI is 100% behind me (otherwise he wouldn't be my FI!)
You're having chair covers? That's just a big expense that you don't need. Once people get into the reception space and hang their coats on the back of the chairs you won't even be able to see it. I've seen reception sites with both chair covers and no chair covers. I like the finished look of the chair covers, so we'll budget for them and it'll be fine. Also that's why there is a coat room, for people to hang their coats.
This is what I did for My wedding, friend A's wedding, friend B's wedding. So what, I don't want to do what you did, your wedding was 2 years ago, and wasn't that great, this isn't your wedding so I don't really care!
And End Rant! Thanks for listening. I figured it was better to get it out here, than let it spill out to the actual people saying these things. 4 more weeks, 4 more weeks, 4 more weeks, is what I keep telling myself.
Edited for Typos.
