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Went to a wedding on Sunday

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It was very nice!

My favorite part was the bride and grooms first dance. It was an indoor ceremony with the reception at the church afterwards. The ceremony was short and sweet. The food could have been better (There was roasted pork for the main dish, it smelt so good too!) and the DJ was a nephew of the Grooms. He played a lot of younger generation music. I would have liked less rap and more songs that were dance-able.

The bride did do a money dance, but in this situation I believe it was appropriate as it is apparently a big part of her culture. I think FI said that she was 1/2 Samoan? But, apparently it is a big deal. She changed out of the wedding dress and wore this... I don't know how to describe it... Island looking outfit? It had a big headpiece. The dance had obviously been practiced until she knew every step by heart.

Everyone did have a little too much to drink, so we left a little early since everyone was getting rowdy.
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  • KatWAGKatWAG member
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    Money dances are never appropriate.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    They were able to serve alcohol at their reception even though it took place in a church?  I thought that was usually a no-no.

    And I know what dance you are talking about.  A bride on David Tutera had to learn that dance since it was a big part of her FI culture and her FMIL was insistent about it.

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    I thought it was interesting, especially since it was such a big deal to her family. They kept asking when the, tuga? Tulugas? I don't remember what they called it. A few people even asked me and I had no clue what they were talking about until it actually happened.
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    Ok I know TV is a terrible reference point, but I remember a Samoan couple doing this on an episode of My Fair Wedding and it was a HUGE deal to the in-laws; the mother-in-law was all about the crazy hat and threw a giant fit until she got it worked into the reception. There are specific cultures where I would be willing to let it go, even though I despise them.
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    @Maggie0829- Ya, we did have to go outside to drink, but people were bringing it in. I wasn't comfortable drinking inside the church, but apparently everyone else was. Also, I will have to look up that episode.
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    itzMS said:
    Drinking in the church parking lot. Class to the max ;-)
    100% this.

    It sounded like the wedding was a dry wedding but people took it upon themselves to do a bit of tailgating in the churches parking lot.

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    Maggie0829 said:
    itzMS said:
    Drinking in the church parking lot. Class to the max ;-)
    100% this.

    It sounded like the wedding was a dry wedding but people took it upon themselves to do a bit of tailgating in the churches parking lot.
    Including the Bride and Groom who provided most of the alcohol. I don't think they meant it to be dry, but since it was in a church they "improvised" although rather inappropriately.
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    awebb04 said:
    Maggie0829 said:
    itzMS said:
    Drinking in the church parking lot. Class to the max ;-)
    100% this.

    It sounded like the wedding was a dry wedding but people took it upon themselves to do a bit of tailgating in the churches parking lot.
    Including the Bride and Groom who provided most of the alcohol. I don't think they meant it to be dry, but since it was in a church they "improvised" although rather inappropriately.
    I'm sorry but this is ridiculous.  They should have had their reception at a place that actually allowed alcohol then have it at a church and then make their guests go outside in the parking lot if they wanted a drink.  I am surprised the church was okay with this.  And  you are right, it was highly inappropriate and poor planning on their part.

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    About the liquor and church issue, Thank God I'm Anglican, Church upstairs, party downstairs! I know this for a fact since my parents were married in the church, for the reception they had a bartender and everything.

    I'm glad it was short and sweet, some weddings I know can go on forever!

     

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    Nephew had his reception at the parish community room (which was awesome in its set up).  They were allowed to serve beer and wine but I don't think that is too uncommon even at Catholic church receptions, is it?
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    kmmssg said:
    Nephew had his reception at the parish community room (which was awesome in its set up).  They were allowed to serve beer and wine but I don't think that is too uncommon even at Catholic church receptions, is it?
    I have never been to a wedding with a reception at the church, so I can't say for sure if it is uncommon or not. I just know that drinks were outside on the side of the church.
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    The Catholic church I grew up in had alcohol at church parties that were primarily for adults.  The St. Patrick's Day party they throw annually always has beer.

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    awebb04 said:


    kmmssg said:

    Nephew had his reception at the parish community room (which was awesome in its set up).  They were allowed to serve beer and wine but I don't think that is too uncommon even at Catholic church receptions, is it?

    I have never been to a wedding with a reception at the church, so I can't say for sure if it is uncommon or not. I just know that drinks were outside on the side of the church.


    I've never been to a Catholic wedding, but I've attended plenty of Protestant ones with receptions at the church. Those were always dry, and people would have been horrified if you'd suggested getting drunk "in God's house."

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    Our reception was at a Protestant church and alcohol wasn't even a question - it was a big NO.  I've seen Priests in restaurants many times having a beer or glass of wine so I wasn't surprised that my nephew was allowed to have beer and wine at the parish for his reception.
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    amaryann210 said:

    The Catholic church I grew up in had alcohol at church parties that were primarily for adults.  The St. Patrick's Day party they throw annually always has beer.

    This! Our Catholic church allows alcohol as well. Not hard liquor, but still beer.
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    katieg520 said:
    amaryann210 said:

    The Catholic church I grew up in had alcohol at church parties that were primarily for adults.  The St. Patrick's Day party they throw annually always has beer.

    This! Our Catholic church allows alcohol as well. Not hard liquor, but still beer.
    All the Catholic churches here allow alcohol of all types in the reception space. And definitely in the parking lot...Catholic church festivals - bringing drinking AND gambling to the neighborhood since we told you it  was a vice! :-p
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    kmmssg said:
    Our reception was at a Protestant church and alcohol wasn't even a question - it was a big NO.  I've seen Priests in restaurants many times having a beer or glass of wine so I wasn't surprised that my nephew was allowed to have beer and wine at the parish for his reception.
    Haha I remember one Sunday when I was growing up, the priest made an announcement at the end of Mass that if you saw him at a local restaurant or sports bar enjoying a drink or two, you didn't have to pretend you didn't recognize him and then leave all embarrassed. Apparently people couldn't handle the fact that priests are real people too.
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    Our Catholic Church has a very strit alcohol policy.  It says right in the "marriage" section on their website, that if alcohol is found on their grounds, they will call the police. 

    But my parents told me that my old parish used to do a yearly carnival with a "beer garden", until the one year it got out of hand!  Then the church didn't have the carnival for 20+ years!

    I recently attended Coach Bingo (and I won - woohoo!) at my neice's school.  They had to get a gaming hall license for the night and no one under 18 was allowed.  But because they had the permit, it allowed people to BYOB, which in a school cafeteria was a little weird!

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    Speaking of alcohol in schools, we have 2 systems here - public and catholic, though both are publicly funded by the government, and kids can choose which one to go to.  Anyway, we're (public) aren't allowed alcohol on the property at all.  Even wine wrapped and for a Christmas gift is a no-no.  The catholic board on the other hand is allowed to have alcohol, theoretically cos of communion (is that the catholic term??), therefore most catholic schools up here have some beers and maybe wine in the staff room fridge.  Lucky catholic teachers!!  ;)

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    kmmssg said:
    Nephew had his reception at the parish community room (which was awesome in its set up).  They were allowed to serve beer and wine but I don't think that is too uncommon even at Catholic church receptions, is it?
    I've been to a catholic church reception. It too served alcohol. I think it depends on your church and who really controls the reception room.
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    Maggie0829 said:
    They were able to serve alcohol at their reception even though it took place in a church?  I thought that was usually a no-no.

    And I know what dance you are talking about.  A bride on David Tutera had to learn that dance since it was a big part of her FI culture and her FMIL was insistent about it.
    Depends on the church - ours allows alcohol at receptions as long as a licensed bartending service is hired.  BUT, it's a Unitarian Universalist church so they are a little more chill about... everything.

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