Bridesmaid Gifts...

Re: Bridesmaid Gifts...

• manateehugger member

  

  October 2013

  Honestly, you spend what you can afford - the monetary value or volume of gift shouldn't be what counts. 

  
  

  If you know they'd all like these things, I think you're fine. Even though, I personally don't know anyone who uses a steering wheel cover or personalized cell phone cover (did you make sure it fits their phones?).

  
  

  As for the leggings and button up - If I were you, I'd put that money toward their gifts instead. I'd use the leggings again, but I'd have no use for a big oxford after your wedding. 

  

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• mscearce member

  

  October 2013

  The steering wheel cover is just something I got a while back they all had a fit over and a few of us went to the same college and its a thin cover with chevron and then a college bow on it the others have asked where I got it but did not want to order due to money at this time so I worked up a deal with the lady that makes them and can order some for them all... we all have iphones and I have a friend that custom makes the cases for an online site so I can make it to fit each one of their personalities too..  

  
  

  Leggings and shirt is something my mom is doing for us all due to video footage and pictures that day..

  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  October 2013

  PDKH said:

  Honestly, you spend what you can afford - the monetary value or volume of gift shouldn't be what counts. 

  
  

  If you know they'd all like these things, I think you're fine. Even though, I personally don't know anyone who uses a steering wheel cover or personalized cell phone cover (did you make sure it fits their phones?).

  
  

  As for the leggings and button up - If I were you, I'd put that money toward their gifts instead. I'd use the leggings again, but I'd have no use for a big oxford after your wedding. 

  I agree with this - I have my own pants and shirts. Most people have gotten their hair done - they know they need a button up or zip hoodie. 

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• itzMS member

  

  October 2013

  The dogeared jewelry is really expensive for what it is IMHO. But if you all like it, cool. $50 for a thin chain with a teensy charm on it isn't worth it to me.
  
  I also don't use steering wheel covers (too slippery). I pick my iphone cases to protect my phone...not because it is cute and personalized. Again, if they use both of these items, cool.
  
  And finally, leggings and a big shirt are not my style at all. I don't know many grown women who would willingly wear that outfit. Why can't they wear their own clothing?
  
  

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• KeptInStitches member

  

  October 2013

  I'd ask your mom if she's really sold on the leggings and shirt - maybe offer to put that money elsewhere? I know, honestly, if I got a random pair of leggings and a random shirt, I'd donate them after the wedding.

  

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• mscearce member

  

  October 2013

  itzMS said:

   don't know many grown women who would willingly wear that outfit. Why can't they wear their own clothing?

  I was the first out of us to graduate from college, we all wore that type of stuff with boots on campus with a chilly day or lazy day around at the beach (were they live)  oldest of the group is 23 and she practically lives in yoga pants

  

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• itzMS member

  

  October 2013

  KeptInStitches said:

  I'd ask your mom if she's really sold on the leggings and shirt - maybe offer to put that money elsewhere? I know, honestly, if I got a random pair of leggings and a random shirt, I'd donate them after the wedding.

  This. OP, you don't have to all dress like twins just because you have a videographer.
  

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• mscearce member

  

  October 2013

  It is something that we have all already talked about wanting to do though... actually it was my MOH that picked everything with my mom..

  

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• manateehugger member

  

  October 2013

  malloryanne09 said:

  itzMS said:

   don't know many grown women who would willingly wear that outfit. Why can't they wear their own clothing?

  I was the first out of us to graduate from college, we all wore that type of stuff with boots on campus with a chilly day or lazy day around at the beach (were they live)  oldest of the group is 23 and she practically lives in yoga pants

  Look, I'm recently out of college too. And I lounge around and workout in yoga pants/leggings all the time, but eventually you have to be a big kid wearing big kid clothes. Yoga pants don't cut it outside of college. 

  
  

  If you really want to do it, ok. But like I said, I think you'd be better off donating that $20-$30 toward their gifts. pictures of them in huge shirts and leggings aren't going to be what matters at the end of the day. 

  

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• mlg78 member

  

  October 2013

  I'm in the process of picking pictures for my album and to print.  I'm not selecting a single one from getting ready other than one from when my corset is being done up and at that point, the one doing it is in her dress already.  So while the pictures of my girls and I getting ready are nice to look at, they'll remain on a disk and on my laptop and nothing more.  So, is it really worth it?

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• cowgirl8238 member

  

  October 2013 edited October 2013

  I just have to ask, why did you come here and tell us what you are getting your BM's, then ask our opinion, and then defend alomst every gift???? If you didn't want the opinions we gave then you didn't have to ask...

  malloryanne09 said:

  Day of (not gifts) : leggings / yoga pants and a button up over sized oxford shirt to wear while getting ready and 

   

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  Leggings and shirt is something my mom is doing for us all due to video footage and pictures that day..

   

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  It is something that we have all already talked about wanting to do though... actually it was my MOH that picked everything with my mom..

   

  Day of gifts : Bag (no name, bridesmaid, monogram on it) Steering Wheel Cover with each of their favorite colors as a bow, personalized cell phone cover, water bottle for the gym (all of us go) and then a piece of jewelry by dogeared a piece that fits "them"

   

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  The steering wheel cover is just something I got a while back they all had a fit over and a few of us went to the same college and its a thin cover with chevron and then a college bow on it the others have asked where I got it but did not want to order due to money at this time so I worked up a deal with the lady that makes them and can order some for them all... we all have iphones and I have a friend that custom makes the cases for an online site so I can make it to fit each one of their personalities too.. 

   

  that being said, if everyone wants a steering wheel cover and an iPhone case then go for it. If everyone really wants to be dressed in an oversized shirt and leggins (and they aren't just agreeing with you to make you feel better/avoid confict) then go for it. If you want to get them jewelery that are not required to wear on your wedding day (as in a part of the uniform and therefore not a gift) then go for it.  Also, the water bottles seem a bit odd to me as well...not wrong but its just something I already have so I wouldn't need one as a gift. 

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  The bags with some personalized gifts inside sound nice.  Also you don't have to get everyone the same thing.  As long as you give them a nice heartfelt gift they will all be happy.  I am sure your BM don't need to be showered in a bunch of gifts, and honestly I would prefer you set a budget and get one nice thing with the money then a bunch of smaller things that I either didn't want or really don't care that much about. -Just my thoughts-

  Edit for spacing fail.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  October 2013

  Only change I would make is skip putting "bridesmaid" on the bag. I would put their name or nothing at all. The reason is that bridesaid is just a title for that day. If I got a bag that was a type of bag that I could use again, I would actually be more likely to use it more often with no monogram.

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• dramamonkey member

  

  October 2013

  Erikan73 said:

  Only change I would make is skip putting "bridesmaid" on the bag. I would put their name or nothing at all. The reason is that bridesaid is just a title for that day. If I got a bag that was a type of bag that I could use again, I would actually be more likely to use it more often with no monogram.

  I think OP was saying that it doesn't have any of those things no name, no bridesmaid, no monogram.

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• erinlin25 member

  

  October 2013

  its cool if you get the yoga pants/shirts but do not make them wear it if they do not want to.  Most I'm sure will do it, but if they will be more comfortable wearing something else, let them...just for pictures is silly considering I highly doubt you will frame that picture.  If they like these items, then great, sounds comfy.  You know your friends so it sounds like this would not be a waste of money.  My friend got us the velor pants with tank tops and jackets a few years back and I loved it/still wear it. 
  
  I did not order or print any "getting ready pics" because really I do not want a pic of no make up and half my hair done.  I did get the silly pics we took in the bathtub but we were all wearing our normal clothes while getting ready, being the normal silly we are taking random pictures.  And these are just on my computer.
  
  as for your gifts sounds like a good variety--fill the bags with candy, snacks, etc and you are good to go.  I like that they are the "same" but geared to them personally. 
  

  
  
  
  

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