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Family isn't on board

CoxjcCoxjc member
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edited October 2013 in Wedding Woes
I am haveing a hard time with my family NOT wanting to be part of my wedding. I am an only child,mom already isn't in my life it has always been my grandma and dad. Dad has four sisters with familes but never super close. Chris my fi has a huge family and they all want to help and have been to ever event we have had. I agreed to a big wedding but after our shower last Sunday( that our church threw for us)I just want to go to the court house. Only my grandma and dad came(after I cried because he said no) and they even left before it was over. Chris and I have tried talking to them. I have no clue how to deal with this. 
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    You deal by enjoying this warm, welcoming family you're about to become a part of. 
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  • msdds51msdds51 member
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    Second that.  Don't let petty people bring you down (especially after they just threw you a shower!)

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  • CoxjcCoxjc member
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    My dad has social issues, doesn't like crowds or stangers. Grandma keeps saying she doesn't know anyone. And I don't know about my aunts, they have never came to anything of mine growing up. I even told my dad he can leave after cake cutting, but he has already said no to the dance and photos.
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    You didn't mention your friends. Invite other people that are close and important to you to share in your day. It sucks that you dad has these issues, but what can you do. Get some good food, good DJ and dance until your feet hurt.

     

    Why spend all that money to let them make you sad the entire day. People might wonder why he's leaving early, but it doesn't sound like there is anything you can do about it.

     

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  • radleybooradleyboo member
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    Family is simply people who take on the responsibilities of family, and define themselves as such.  I have many friends whom I consider family, and 'family' that I rarely communicate with and haven't seen in years.  Embrace the people who love you and your FI, surround yourself with them on your special day, as they will be the ones to support you during your marriage.  
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  • CLI242009CLI242009 member
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    edited October 2013
    ReturnOfKuus said:
    You deal by enjoying this warm, welcoming family you're about to become a part of. 
    ^_^ to your comment. 

    I am dealing with a similar situation. I hope you can cheer up and be happy that you have a family that is welcoming you with open arms. We can't pick our families but we can be grateful and be thankful to god when he blesses us with an alternative. 

    Sorry to those if it sounds like "replacing" your family is a good idea. I am not trying to say that at all. Be happy with what you do have and work with that. If after you let them know about your feelings & things don't change I would turn to your FI's family. That's what I'm learning to do. =) 

    BTW thank you for posting this and I'm loving all the comments too. This makes me feel better about leaning on my FI's family ^_^ 


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  • PMeg819PMeg819 member
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    Is anyone else reading the title of this post as Borat? Anyone? Beuller?
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    PMeg819 said:
    Is anyone else reading the title of this post as Borat? Anyone? Beuller?
    I keep reading it as 'bo-rad' in my head, but now I'll see 'Borat'.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    PMeg, I'm glad you said something.  I couldn't read anything else but that.
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