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Grumbledore's Post on Cash Bars-Vent

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She took time out of her busy life to write a wonderfully informative post about why cash bars are rude, so why are there still a billion posts asking about cash bars?! This reminds me of the high school students I teach that just refuse to listen! That question was already answered!!!! ok...vent over, thanks for listening. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Lol! So true! 
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  • APDSS22APDSS22 member
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    Because their situation is SO unique/special/earth-shattering that of course they get an exception! *rolls eyes*  Of course a lot of them are posting about something else and just happen to mention that they're also doing a cash bar...similar to their colors being hot pink and zebra print.
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    dramamonkey said:
    I thought this post was going to be a vent AGAINST her post. this is much better. 


    I thought that too!  She asks a good question though.  I guess there are two answers:

    1) People can't be bothered to read that post
    2) People think it doesn't apply to them or just can't figure out why they're not special enough for an exemption from the etiquette rule
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  • FutureMrsN3312FutureMrsN3312 member
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    raeah219 said:
    She took time out of her busy life to write a wonderfully informative post about why cash bars are rude, so why are there still a billion posts asking about cash bars?! This reminds me of the high school students I teach that just refuse to listen! That question was already answered!!!! ok...vent over, thanks for listening. 
    I think the same thing every time I look on here and see "15 new posts".
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    raeah219 said:
    She took time out of her busy life to write a wonderfully informative post about why cash bars are rude, so why are there still a billion posts asking about cash bars?! This reminds me of the high school students I teach that just refuse to listen! That question was already answered!!!! ok...vent over, thanks for listening. 
    How sweet :)  Yeah, a lot of people, especially rude people, think they are special and different and that their circumstances are somehow the exception.  They are wrong.

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    I, for one, truly appreciate the effort grumbled ore went to in order to have such an informative thread. I can't tell you how much I've glared from her and most of you ladies. Have to admit, it is baffling that so many have a hard time with the idea that cash bars are rude!
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    Grumbledore, sorry my iPad had an issue :/
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    It's because there are some people can't afford alcohol and their guests want/expect it. WTH is so hard to understand about that?!? */sarcasm
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    alisonmarie658 said:
    Don't get me started on the ones that want to charge their guests for dinner...
    That is just beyond the pale.

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    alisonmarie658 said:
    Don't get me started on the ones that want to charge their guests for dinner...
    Wait. That's a thing?
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    alisonmarie658 said: dramamonkey said: alisonmarie658 said: Don't get me started on the ones that want to charge their guests for dinner... Wait. That's a thing? Yes, maybe it's less often for weddings, but I've seen people on here want to do it for rehearsal dinners, engagement parties, and shower brunches.
    (sarcasm alert) But . . . telling guests to actually     bring the dinner (like a potluck) is fine, right?  Because that is not the same as charging them, if they go buy the ingredients and take the time and bring it to my wedding, right?  Besides, then I might be able to afford that hosted cocktail hour so guests only have to buy drinks for 4 hours, not 5.  Also, I should mention that I am very special and I have super special circumstances that no one could possibly understand that mean I can only have a cash bar. (sarcastic rant over)

    ETA: I have no idea what the formatting problem is with that, sorry!
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    southernbelle0915 said:
    It's because there are some people can't afford alcohol and their guests want/expect it. WTH is so hard to understand about that?!? */sarcasm

    I have a problem with that, when they EXPECT the hard alcohol, but that is just me *shrugs* My FI & I are not drinkers yet I still have some of our guests grumbling that we're not going to be serving hard alcohol. We're hosting beer, wine & soda for our guests.  

    @alisonmarie - O_O whoa...that is a thing?!?! Seriously?!? I would never think to charge guests. Wth!! 
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    dramamonkey said:
    I thought this post was going to be a vent AGAINST her post. this is much better. 


    LOL I was prepared to start a post titled "raeah's post about grumbledores post - vent"
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    You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
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    The same reason there are tons of the same questions on every topic every day on TK. 
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    TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

    Because their situation is SO unique/special/earth-shattering that of course they get an exception! *rolls eyes*  Of course a lot of them are posting about something else and just happen to mention that they're also doing a cash bar...similar to their colors being hot pink and zebra print.

    Hey! My colours are hot pink, black and bling! ;-)

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    missmo14 said:
    Because their situation is SO unique/special/earth-shattering that of course they get an exception! *rolls eyes*  Of course a lot of them are posting about something else and just happen to mention that they're also doing a cash bar...similar to their colors being hot pink and zebra print.
    Hey! My colours are hot pink, black and bling! ;-)
    I have no problem with self-expression from brides, that particular wedding color combo came to mind because the groom wore a pimp hat.  I more meant that they just off-handedly remark about it in the post ex: "I'm totally having trouble with all my guests being SUPER unreasonable about stuff for the reception!!!!  They keep saying that having it outside, in the Sahara desert in the middle of the day on summer solstice is a bad idea!  I'm providing them with a watering hole, complete with cash bar, so they can totally drink if they want to..."
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    Musikalizzie said:


    I just read a post on WB where a bride was upset that people left her reception early. Context: wedding was in a non air conditioned barn (probably booked for the cutesy photo ops). It was 90+ degrees and her guests thought it was too hot so they left. 

    Weird how making your guests comfortable plays a major role in a wedding celebration. If only some women can see that...
    I would've left early too.  I went to a wedding in a barn last year but it was appropriately temperate outside.
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