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Getting Married in Vegas, Party in home town??

edited October 2013 in Wedding Etiquette Forum

So my Fiancé and I want to get married in Vegas in a very very small ceremony (Parents and a few close friends) and then host a party where we live for all the friends and family to attend. It is not a reception; I don’t want it to be a reception...just a party at a restaurant where we pay for all the food and drinks to celebrate our marriage. Is this ok? <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

Also I don’t want to invite my whole family to the Vegas wedding, I really only want my Dad (and by default my stepmom) however they whole family will be invited to the party. I do not live in the same state my family does and most can not afford to attend either event anyway.

Basically my questions are:

Is it ok to have a small wedding and a party (not a reception) when we return?

Is it rude to invite just my Dad and Stepmom and none of my siblings?

(sorry copy and pasted from word and can't seem to get rid of the giberish)

 

Re: Getting Married in Vegas, Party in home town??

  • What you are planning sounds fine.  Personally, I would be a little hurt if one of my sisters didn't invite me to her wedding but invited my mother.  But, if you are not as close to them or you have a lot of siblings and want to keep it really tiny, I don't see a problem with it.
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  • This kind of what we are planning on doing. FI and myself are going to have a small private ceremony (only parents) then we are going to have a party afterwards with a bunch of family and friends are a local pizza joint. We are going to invite everybody in the family. I don't think it's rude at all. If you only want to share your ceremony with a few people, then so be it.
  • Its not that I don't like my siblings, its just that I have 8 of them, all but 1 are married so that would mean 15 extra people and most of them have kids that they would want to bring. Also we are not having any sort of reception afterwards in vegas, the party at the resturant will be 2 days later in Houston. I've been married twice, the first i was 18 (in the army thought it was a good idea divorced a year later) it was a JP wedding with only 2 witnesses. (no family) the 2nd was the big fancy wedding, then i got deployed a month later and when i returned he got deployed...it just didn't work. I guess I am a bit ashamed of being divorced twice and getting married again. one of my sister's has made "jokes" about it like "Hell don't hire a photographer, i'll just take pictures, this is your 3rd marraige" I just want to feel good on that day and not have to worry about any remarks my siblings might be making. 

    I feel like most of them wouldn't be able to afford to come anyway...I don't know if i should invite them and just hope they can't make it...there is only 1 sister I really want to be there but I know it would be rude to just invite her.

  • If you're only close to one sister of 8 siblings I think it's fine to invite just her. It would get sticky if you wanted to invite 5 or 6 and not all of them, but one shouldn't cause drama (granted you know your family best).

    You do need to have a "reception" in Vegas to thank your parents and whoever you invite for coming to the ceremony, but it doesnt need to be some big fancy affair- treating them to dinner after counts, and it can be as low key as pizza or sandwiches.
  • We decided today we would invite my parents and all 8 my brothers and sisters and their spouses and go out to an inexpensive dinner after (were we will pick up the tab as we should) I know most of them will not be able to make it. Thankfully my FI only has a sister....so it shouldnt be too bad LOL
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