I am sure I'm not the only bride who has had to deal with this one. My parents were divorced in 2003, and it was because my dad fell in love with, and cheated with another woman. They are now married, and my mom is in a committed relationship. My mother has promised that if she ever got the chance, she would make the other woman pay. My sister was married a year ago, and did not invite the "other woman" which resulted in my dad not coming. My sister is also the Matron of Honor at my wedding, and I have a feeling she may not show if she finds out that I am allowing my dad's wife to come. Now, normally I did not want her to come either to make my mother happy, but my mom has been all wishy washy about my wedding from the start. She controlled who showed up at my sister's wedding, which meant her sisters and our cousins were not invited, and it resulted in being a all groom's family party. I am having mine out of state, and she keeps acting like I planned it that way to make it difficult for her, even though my groom has a huge family in the destination area. (With me so far?) So I guess my question is, is it wrong for me to tell my dad to bring his wife, just so I can have control over my own wedding, or is it disrespectful to my sister and mother? I feel so torn, and I would rather deal with the pain of meeting this woman who broke up our family, than deal with my dad not walking me down the aisle. My groom thinks my family should just grow up, and I agree with him to some point, but my family is so fragile after dealing with the scandal, that I don't know if I want to deal with any possible drama on my big day.