We've only just begun the planning process, and the wedding will not happen for another few years, but we've already hit a wall. We hardly ever disagree on anything so it shocked me when he stood his ground on this one. He doesn't even want to negotiate. Before I even explained why I wanted no kids attending he told me that he didn't want us to come off as smug to the families. I don't mind kids and would like to have some of my own one day, and I know that anything can go wrong during a wedding so I'm not expecting perfection here, but I have some legitimate reasons why I don't want them there. For one most of the families live about 2 hours away from where the wedding and reception will be held. The kids will already be fussy from the drive. then they have to endure a ceremony and reception which will be late in the day so that means missed nap times and staying up late not to mention a long car trip back. I'm not serving special food for picky eaters. And there will be alcohol. There are some party animals on both sides and I just don't think that will be an appropriate environment. It's out in the countryside so if kids wander off (knowing these rascals they will) it could be dangerous. It's not just my groom either. The moms are probley going to give me hell for this and I'd just like my groom to hear me out and then stick up for me when the invites go out. I'm willing to work with 10 and up but I just can't agree to any lower. Any advice or opinions to help me stand my ground?