Looking for some advice here. I've had 2 best friends for about 25 years, I'll call them Jen and Emma. Emma has been in an on-again/off-again relationship for about 5 years now; they've been 'on' for about 3 years. The problem is, Jen and I think this guy is absolutely wrong for Emma. For example, he makes hurtful comments about Emma's appearance, finding a younger woman, etc. but then says "I was just kidding!" when someone calls him out on it. He has a lot of baggage from family issues that are still haunting him, and clearly impacting their relationship in a negative way...and yet when Emma has brought up therapy, he agrees that he should talk to somebody, but never follows through. Jen and I have tolerated him while making our feelings clear to Emma that she can do so much better than him. It seems to fall on deaf ears.
This morning, I get a text from Emma asking for advice, because they're thinking of moving in together, but her mother is devastated because (1) she's opposed to living together before marriage for religious reasons, and (2) she thinks that Emma's SO will have no incentive to marry her, and/or that she'll end up being "stuck". I have to admit I share that opinion. This guy is SO WRONG and so unwilling to work on himself and his issues; but she seems unwilling to accept it.
So here I am, trying to give sound advice but I'm drawing a blank. Anything?