My fiance and I are getting married several hours from where we live. He (his family) is Roman Catholic and I grew up Protestant - neither of us attend church. We're having our ceremony and reception at the same location (not being married at a church). I started researching officiants and found one that kind of a good compromise - he is a priest in good standing in the Ecumenical Catholic Church. We have no previous relationship with him outside the wedding - we will be meeting with him 2x before the wedding (probably once on phone/skype and once in person).
I've read mixed things on this board - should he be invited to the reception? From what I read it is a courtesy but not required? I am not sure if he is married but that can add a decent amount to the overall cost of the officiant for 2 additional people. For those of you who have extended invitations to your officiants that you didn't have personal relationships with - did they attend? I would have no idea who I would have him or him and his wife sit with!
His fee is $650 + an additional $75 to attend the rehearsal dinner (not sure if this is normal price or not for the New England area). Do you think it is necessary for him to attend the rehearsal? I guess I can ask my coordinator what people usually do but it seems silly to spend $75 + dinner for him to stand around for 15 minutes but obviously I want to make sure things run smoothly!