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Strange social media situation.

lizandmark2014lizandmark2014 member
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I do not post wedding related things in my status. Nor do I post photos of my engagement ring, dress, or bridesmaids dresses on line.

How do I keep from offending non invited friends from being offended when I change my name on social media? Or don't change my name on social media?
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Re: Strange social media situation.

  • photokittyphotokitty mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited November 2013
    You're over thinking this (i hope ) :) people understand you can't invite everyone and will understand. If you decide to change your name do so and if you wish update your relationship status at the same time as well. GL!
    :kiss: ~xoxo~ :kiss:

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  • lizandmark2014lizandmark2014 member
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    Thanks for the advice. I probably am. :-) Helps to hear that though.
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  • StephJean83StephJean83 member
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    You can change your name and adults will realize not everyone can be invited. If someone asks, just let them know you wish you could invite everyone you wanted but had just close friends and family. If you aren't particularly close, they probably don't expect to be invited.
    You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. - Barbara DeAngelis
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    StephJean83 said:

    You can change your name and adults will realize not everyone can be invited. If someone asks, just let them know you wish you could invite everyone you wanted but had just close friends and family. If you aren't particularly close, they probably don't expect to be invited.

    I agree with this. However, I would refrain from saying that you had only close friends and family. That could imply that that friend isn't close to you. I would just say "We couldn't invite everyone we would've liked."
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    I also didn't post anything on facebook up until my wedding day. People post pictures while they were on their way to the reception (eyeroll) and I changed my name a few days after. People know that no everyone is invited to everything. This really is a non-issue.
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  • melbelleupmelbelleup member
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    Just change it no biggie! I don't even use my last name in the social media world. I go by my first and middle.
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  • SBminiSBmini member
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    Social media specialist here and I echo what everyone else says. If you don't know them well enough for them to know you are engaged, then it shouldn't matter how they feel when you change their name. You cannot control how other people respond to things that don't impact them- so don't even try! 

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I was floored by the Facebook response to FI and my relationship change to "engaged". We don't even talk to most of these well wishers and people saying things like "it's about time you two!" (Wtf is that? Did two years become too long since the last time I got married?) I don't know if FI is going to want to invite all these people to the wedding but really I just think that people like to hear other people's good news! I don't think anyone commented because they thought they were getting an invite because we told everyone that was important to us before we Facebook changed. I catch myself saying a quick congrats to people I don't know really well or have lost touch with and I wouldn't have expected to be invited, I'm just a little happier knowing there is a piece of happy out there ya know? Anyone who matters will be invited or already know you're getting married and why they aren't invited (budget, venue, etc..) so I don't think it's too big of a problem.
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