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Which (food) option would you like best as a guest?

Here is my wedding timeline. I've exhausted every possible option as to how to close the gap more, but between my church's requirements and the lack of venues that start before 5pm in my area (unless you have a 12pm reception which would be fine if not for the strict 3pm start time of ceremonies at my church), this is the best I could do:

3:00-4:00 pm: Full Catholic Mass

4:00-4:45 pm (maybe a tad earlier): Receiving line for 200 guests and formal exit of the bride and groom

4:45-5:05 pm (with no traffic): Travel to reception hall

5:30 pm: Start of cocktail hour

Now, most of our guests will be OOT and staying at the hotel. For those who only have the room for Saturday, they will need to check-in (check-in is at 4pm) after the ceremony. An optional shuttle will then be available to take them to the reception.

But for those guests who aren't staying at the hotel, I have a few ideas for options for them.

If you were a guest attending my wedding and NOT staying at the hotel, which option would you like best?

1. Open tab at the bar at the hotel with room blocks (hotel is 15 minutes from church, 10 minutes from reception)

2. Food truck outside the ceremony with pastries and some hot beverages (fall wedding)

3. Private room in the hotel with some light fare and refreshments

4. Some snacks/refreshments at the church (but only until a little after 5pm, as Saturday mass is at 5:30pm)

...or would you be pretty annoyed regardless?

Thank you for any opinions...I really appreciate it! :)



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Re: Which (food) option would you like best as a guest?

  • ZeroOrchestraZeroOrchestra member
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    edited November 2013
    It seems a little strange for OOT guests to be checking in after the ceremony, how are they getting ready? Do you have a lot of people doing that? I'm just curious.

    If I were a local guest I would want to go straight to the reception after the ceremony, not stop at a third location for cocktails. Depending on my relationship with the couple I usually skip the receiving line too.

    I'm sure someone else will have some better advice, your gap isn't huge but it is there. Out of your options though I think light refreshments at the church sounds best to me.
  • Oops, sorry, I worded that wrong. OOT guests will be there probably on Friday night. It's the guests that will be coming from an hour or less away that just want the room for Saturday so they can drink or not drive home too late that will need the 4pm check-in.

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  • I wouldn't want to travel to a third location as a guest if I didn't need to.  Either of the options that would be at the ceremony location would be fine with me.
  • Why don't you just start cocktail hour at 5?  It shouldn't take 45 minutes to do a receiving line for 45 people.



  • CLI242009CLI242009 member
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    edited November 2013
    It seems a little strange for OOT guests to be checking in after the ceremony, how are they getting ready? Do you have a lot of people doing that? I'm just curious. If I were a local guest I would want to go straight to the reception after the ceremony, not stop at a third location for cocktails. Depending on my relationship with the couple I usually skip the receiving line too. I'm sure someone else will have some better advice, your gap isn't huge but it is there. Out of your options though I think light refreshments at the church sounds best to me.
    A lot of guests do this you'd be surprised. Instead of going to cocktail hour, they check in at their hotel. 

    Guests sometimes don't want to pay for the night before, Some travel in their evening attire, but then get mad when the room isn't ready for them to do an "early check in" of 11 a.m. and the wedding is at 12 or 1 p.m.
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  • Viczaesar said:
    Why don't you just start cocktail hour at 5?  It shouldn't take 45 minutes to do a receiving line for 45 people.
    I wish we could :( The earliest the reception venue will let us start is 5:30. We're having 200 guests though, so I've heard to account for at least 30 minutes. I may be wrong, though. I've only been to two weddings and neither one had a receiving line.

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  • I like the food truck idea or the open tab but with that one you may have people getting a little more sloshed then they had planned or earlier then they planned.

    The food truck would be unique and would be nice for those that go through the receiving line early.
  • Viczaesar said:
    Why don't you just start cocktail hour at 5?  It shouldn't take 45 minutes to do a receiving line for 45 people.
    I wish we could :( The earliest the reception venue will let us start is 5:30. We're having 200 guests though, so I've heard to account for at least 30 minutes. I may be wrong, though. I've only been to two weddings and neither one had a receiving line.
    In that case I'd go with the food truck at the ceremony site.  How many people are you having in your receiving line?  If you don't have all the parents or wedding party members it can go quite quickly.



  • .In that case I'd go with the food truck at the ceremony site.  How many people are you having in your receiving line?  If you don't have all the parents or wedding party members it can go quite quickly.
    We're having 6 people: Me, FI (then husband! haha), my parents, and his parents.

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  • From someone who hates gaps: Your gap of about 30 to 45 minutes, minus travel time isn't so bad. As a guest, I wouldn't want to make an extra stop for such a short time. I would appreciate access to a rest room and possibly soft drinks at the ceremony site. 
                       
  • Personally, I don't think it is such a long gap to worry about it.   if there is a place at the church, they can relax and have water, iced tea cookies, etc (no liquor and have them drive) do it. But why open a new bar tab some where else?
  • ashleyepashleyep member
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    edited November 2013
    I have a baby gap like you do - 5:30 ceremony - Catholic, but not a full Mass, should be over shortly after 6, I expect guests will be gone by 6:15. Then I'm hoping guests will go to the hotel (15 minute drive) to catch the shuttle and the cocktail hour starts at 7. I'm hoping I can have the bar part of the cockail hour open at 6:30ish in case anyone comes straight to the reception venue. It's also the only bar in the venue, so it's not even like at a hotel where you could hang out at the hotel bar to kill 20 minutes.

    But anyway, for yours I'd say go with the food truck. My cousin had a gelato stand outside after her ceremony and it was awesome! I think your gap is too short to try and host something at the hotel, especially if all of your guests aren't going to be there. The guests that will be there can kill 20 minutes in their room freshening up.
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  • I think you are over thinking this hon. If someone wants to go up to their room, or grab a drink at the bar, etc let them do that before formal cocktail hour starts. After all, they are there to celebrate you and spend time with friends and family. You don't need to occupy every second of the day with activities.
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  • I say go with the food truck. I think most people would really enjoy that.
  • maryemoomaryemoo member
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    CLI242009 said:
    It seems a little strange for OOT guests to be checking in after the ceremony, how are they getting ready? Do you have a lot of people doing that? I'm just curious. If I were a local guest I would want to go straight to the reception after the ceremony, not stop at a third location for cocktails. Depending on my relationship with the couple I usually skip the receiving line too. I'm sure someone else will have some better advice, your gap isn't huge but it is there. Out of your options though I think light refreshments at the church sounds best to me.
    A lot of guests do this you'd be surprised. Instead of going to cocktail hour, they check in at their hotel. 

    Guests sometimes don't want to pay for the night before, Some travel in their evening attire, but then get mad when the room isn't ready for them to do an "early check in" of 11 a.m. and the wedding is at 12 or 1 p.m.
    OH MAN. This. I've worked in hotels for 3 1/2 years and dealt with this so many times it's not even funny. They get ridiculously pissed. No hotel I have ever worked at has absolutely guaranteed the possibility.
  • yeah I do not see your gap being long at all.  With a catholic mass I feel like people always say an hour but I don't think I have ever been to a catholic mass wedding that did not take 1.5 hours.  Plus you will have the receiving line, and with 200 guests that will take time so by the time guests actually leave the church and travel they will maybe have 15 minutes to wait, (more if they skip the receiving line).  So really I think that gives people time not to rush to the next venue. I would think most people would be checked in to the hotel, but this way if not they have time to stop and check in if they need to or go to the hotel to take advantage of the shuttle.  I think you would be wasting your money if you set up something in between for that quick of a "gap."  If anything, have something at the ceremony site so if people waited for after the receiving line and your exit they had some snacks/refreshments available.
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