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Who gets the 'Save the Date?'

sockmisersockmiser member
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So! It seems all my friends and myself are getting married, to each other, and all within the next 7 months. Seriously rings are popping up everywhere! So I'm wondering who gets the save the dates here. Only my FI and I live together out of our friend group and while most all of them will be married by the my wedding none of them are yet. Does each person form each couple get a Save the Date or do I just send them to the girls and they keep the men in the loop? 
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Re: Who gets the 'Save the Date?'

  • Emmy1493Emmy1493 member
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    edited November 2013
    Anyone you are absolutely inviting to the wedding. If they are a couple living together, you can address with both names on it. If not, you send one to each. 
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  • melbelleupmelbelleup member
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    edited November 2013
    You address it to the person you are closer with and list their other half as well

    So say, Sally is your BFF and engaged to Ron

    Ms. Sally Lastname
    Mr. Ron Lastname
    Sally's address
    Sally's city, state zip

    Also remember, STD = invite No backsie taksies.
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    sockmiser said:

    So! It seems all my friends and myself are getting married, to each other, and all within the next 7 months. Seriously rings are popping up everywhere! So I'm wondering who gets the save the dates here. Only my FI and I live together out of our friend group and while most all of them will be married by the my wedding none of them are yet. Does each person form each couple get a Save the Date or do I just send them to the girls and they keep the men in the loop? 

    Call the couple and ask where they would like it sent.
    Some will want their own, some will be fine with a STD/invite with both names sent to one residence.
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  • sockmisersockmiser member
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    Great advice, thank you all!
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  • CallaLily25CallaLily25 member
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    I think in a situation in which you are friends with both people in the couple, it's best to ask them which address they would like things sent to.

    My FI and I don't live together, but have been asked before from other couples getting married which address (his place or mine) we would like wedding invitations and STDs sent to. We chose my place because FI is prone to losing things, haha. Two invitations for a couple is just unnecessary, in my opinion. 

    In the case where you are obviously closer to one part of the couple, I think it's best to send it to the person you are closer with. i.e. I have a best friend with a SO that we have all become very close to, but I was friends with her first and am closer to her, so I would send everything to her address, not her SO's. 



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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    If you are closer to one side of the couple than the other (like FI's best bud and his gf who you aren't close with) send to the closer party (FI's best bud, in this case). If you are close with both of them, ask them who they want to send it to.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Definitely ask! My FI and I were not living together before the wedding of some very good friends, but since FI was in the wedding party all of our wedding stuff went to his house... including my bridal shower and bach party invitations. I never saw them and almost missed both parties.
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  • LindzxxoLindzxxo member
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    My Fiance and I don't live together currently (this will be changed soon wooo for house hunting) but when we recieve invites they are usually addressed to both of us as: Mr. FI's First and last and Miss. My First last and the invite is sent to whoever the couple is close to. For instance he recieved the invite to his cousin's wedding but I recieved the invite to my friend's shower.
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