Due to my pending offspring, I follow a "birth club" forum on a different site that is not TB.
Here's the story one girl posted:
Originally they were planning a civil ceremony at the courthouse (no guests), but their family really wanted to be present. So the poster and her FI agreed to get married at their church. And invite guests (immediate family on both sides). They are "too poor" to host a reception, so they wanted everyone to meet up at a restaurant after the ceremony and pay for their own meals. My mind was blown just at that. Of course, the OP said her guests were commenting that it's rude to do that.
But then EVERYONE on the forum commenting on her post called her guests "selfish" for expecting to be fed, wanting a free meal, etc, etc. "It's your day...if they don't want to pay they don't have to come" "I would never expect a bride and groom to thank me for coming" "The guests should simply feel honored you invited them"
Holy shit.
Then I googled "Wedding ceremony, no reception" and TONS of people actually do this.
I'm almost ready to give up hope.