Boutonnieres/corsages?

bkgerke · November 2013

I think boutonnieres and corsages are stupid and a waste of money and even the DIY ones are a waste of time. Are they necessary?

Maggie0829 · November 2013

Nothing besides the officiant and marriage license is necessary when it comes to weddings.

If you don't like bouts and corsages then don't have them. The guys could just wear colorful pocket squares and your VIP women could just carry a small nosegay if they would like. But honestly, I would ask the women what they prefer in the case of flowers because grandma may want a pin on corsage.

bkgerke · November 2013

The only important woman not involved in the wedding is an aunt, otherwise the moms are both being walked down the aisle and the grandmas are the flower "girls"

Maggie0829 · November 2013

bkgerke said:

The only important woman not involved in the wedding is an aunt, otherwise the moms are both being walked down the aisle and the grandmas are the flower "girls"

Seriously?

bkgerke · November 2013

Yup...my grandma was always a huge part of my life and when looking on Pinterest, it was a cute, nontraditional way to involve them, plus they all love the idea and are excited to be involved. Each one cried when they were invited!

Maggie0829 · November 2013

bkgerke said:

Yup...my grandma was always a huge part of my life and when looking on Pinterest, it was a cute, nontraditional way to involve them, plus they all love the idea and are excited to be involved. Each one cried when they were invited!

I would just find calling your Grandmothers flower "girls" to be demeaning. I mean these are important, mature women in your life and they can still be involved in your wedding without having to be given a cutesy kid title.

princessleia22 · November 2013

Nothing is necessary. If you don't like them, don't have them. I've actually debated not having any bouquets at all in my wedding, including my own. I never actually even thought about boutonnieres and corsages, but I doubt I'll have those either. I would ask the VIP's what they would prefer or if they mind not having them, but really its your decision. If my wedding party or VIP's wanted boutonnieres, corsages, or bouquets, I'm not necessarily opposed to them having them if they want it, but if they don't care then why should I bother with it?

bkgerke · November 2013

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not alone! PS...if its the fresh flower aspect that you don't like, I made my bouquets from book pages!

bkgerke · November 2013

It's not the name that's important, that just so happens to be the role that they are fulfilling. They loved the idea and aren't offended by it, so the title is a non-issue.

JoanE2012 · November 2013

Maggie0829 said:

bkgerke said:

Yup...my grandma was always a huge part of my life and when looking on Pinterest, it was a cute, nontraditional way to involve them, plus they all love the idea and are excited to be involved. Each one cried when they were invited!

I would just find calling your Grandmothers flower "girls" to be demeaning. I mean these are important, mature women in your life and they can still be involved in your wedding without having to be given a cutesy kid title.

This. As a guest, I'd be side eyeing it. It is just way too weird. Can't they just be walked down the aisle like the moms? Non-traditional doesn't always equal cute.

southernbelle0915 · November 2013

bkgerke said:

It's not the name that's important, that just so happens to be the role that they are fulfilling. They loved the idea and aren't offended by it, so the title is a non-issue.

If my grandkid whom I loved very much asked me to be in her wedding as a flower girl I would smile and say, "of course, sweetheart. what fun!"

On the inside I'd be like, "this is the weirdest shit ever, but if it makes her happy.... whatever." Just sayin.

ETA: I think you should realize that family/friends want to make you happy on your wedding day even if they think your ideas are weird and being called "girl" at 60+ is degrading.

atlastmrsg · November 2013

One thing to ponder about corsages, too, is the potential damage to a delicate garment. That's another reason why they have the potential to be a waste. A delicate silk garment could have holes left behind, or pulls, from the weight and pin of a corsage. You risk ruining the wearer's dress, or having her decline if she knows the pin will damage the dress. Or having to find a way to place it on a seam, strap, etc. that looks awkward.

southernbelle0915 · November 2013

SAHoehle said:

One thing to ponder about corsages, too, is the potential damage to a delicate garment. That's another reason why they have the potential to be a waste. A delicate silk garment could have holes left behind, or pulls, from the weight and pin of a corsage. You risk ruining the wearer's dress, or having her decline if she knows the pin will damage the dress. Or having to find a way to place it on a seam, strap, etc. that looks awkward.

Wrist corsages are an option if this is a concern.

Maggie0829 · November 2013

SAHoehle said:

One thing to ponder about corsages, too, is the potential damage to a delicate garment. That's another reason why they have the potential to be a waste. A delicate silk garment could have holes left behind, or pulls, from the weight and pin of a corsage. You risk ruining the wearer's dress, or having her decline if she knows the pin will damage the dress. Or having to find a way to place it on a seam, strap, etc. that looks awkward.

They have also created magnets for corsages and bouts so that no pins are necessary. But you would have to check with your florist to see if they have them and/or if they can get them in.

princessleia22 · November 2013

bkgerke said:

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not alone! PS...if its the fresh flower aspect that you don't like, I made my bouquets from book pages!

I actually have fresh rose bouquet provided in my "wedding package", so I already have one whether I use it or not (and I don't get refund if I don't use it). I've also played around with the idea of making one from paper and actually really like the way it looks... plus then I have it for a lifelong keepsake. Right now I've made some using leftover paper from my invitations (which I made myself) and I've also played with making them from the sheet music of our processional and first dance songs, which also looked gorgeous. But, I'm still just not sure about carrying a bouquet at all.

tabathafaye · November 2013

Would it make you guys feel better if she called her grandmas "flower ladies"?

princessleia22 · November 2013

I think its great to have her grandmas as flower girls. As long as the grandmas like it and the bride & groom like it, that's all that matters. I'm all for twisting the traditional elements of the wedding to make it unique.

bkgerke · November 2013

Thanks for the support on my "flower ladies," everyone involved seems very happy with the arrangement. I am also making paper flowers for both my bouquets and my centerpieces. I'm probably just going to skip corsages and boutonnieres all together because I'm DIYing so much that I just feel they would be a waste of time. Thanks for all the great suggestions though!

BeyondHappy · November 2013

You can do what you want, but the flowers identify the family members closest to the bride and groom, and this is helpful for all of the staff working the event, because they can identify who's who and this makes the people wearing flowers feel a part of the inner circle.

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