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Gifts to help with a wedding?

SRoyce2015SRoyce2015 member
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edited November 2013 in Chit Chat
Hi all!

I'm newly engaged and looking at a year-and-a-half engagement.
My birthday and the holidays are coming up and my family always asks if there are any small-medium size things I would like to have, and I was wondering if there's anything I could ask for that I could use for the wedding or that would make the process easier.
I have a planning binder. I'm still in the very early planning stages, and nothing other than our date is really settled as this point, but I do know I'll be paying for everything myself and can use all the help I can get.
So really my questions are: Can I use this opportunity to ask for things that will help me with the wedding? And has anyone else asked for wedding-planning related gifts?

Thanks!
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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    The only thing I used to plan my wedding was the internet but it looks like you're covered there. 


    What types of things do you think you need for planning?



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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I am confused by what you mean by a wedding planning gift?  What exactly do you think you need besides a binder to hold paper contracts and pictures ripped from magazines, the internet, and excel to track your guest list?

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  • audubonbride2013audubonbride2013 member
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    If there's a specific cake serving set, toasting flutes, cake topper, etc that you would like to use at the wedding, you could suggest that when people ask.
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  • ElcaBElcaB member
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    If you mean gifts for your wedding, like the shoes you'll wear, cake topper, etc., you're really too early in the process to know what you want. 

    As far as planning related gifts go, maybe you could ask for a subscription to a favorite wedding magazine or a wedding planning book.

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  • SRoyce2015SRoyce2015 member
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    ElcaB said:

    If you mean gifts for your wedding, like the shoes you'll wear, cake topper, etc., you're really too early in the process to know what you want. 

    As far as planning related gifts go, maybe you could ask for a subscription to a favorite wedding magazine or a wedding planning book.

    Ok, apparently "planning" was not the word I needed to use. This is more the type of answer I was looking for.

    Essentially, I'll be having to buy a lot of stuff for the wedding and I'm trying to figure out if there are things that other people could buy for me to make the process easier or more affordable. Shoes and cake topper sound like good ideas, but I think ElcaB is right that I'm probably not far enough into my planning to really know what I want or need.
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  • PolarBearFitzPolarBearFitz member
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    SRoyce2015 said:
    ElcaB said:

    If you mean gifts for your wedding, like the shoes you'll wear, cake topper, etc., you're really too early in the process to know what you want. 

    As far as planning related gifts go, maybe you could ask for a subscription to a favorite wedding magazine or a wedding planning book.

    Ok, apparently "planning" was not the word I needed to use. This is more the type of answer I was looking for.

    Essentially, I'll be having to buy a lot of stuff for the wedding and I'm trying to figure out if there are things that other people could buy for me to make the process easier or more affordable. Shoes and cake topper sound like good ideas, but I think ElcaB is right that I'm probably not far enough into my planning to really know what I want or need.
    Ah I see...yes it takes a while to figure out your specifics. The most important thing to do is locate a venue to start with. Certain decor/items will go with your venue and colors you eventually select.
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  • SRoyce2015SRoyce2015 member
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    aefitz29 said:
    Ah I see...yes it takes a while to figure out your specifics. The most important thing to do is locate a venue to start with. Certain decor/items will go with your venue and colors you eventually select.
    I thought I had a venue.. Then I went to book it this week and found out they no longer book weddings. So now I'm back to square one. :-\
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    Maybe a wedding planning book or wedding etiquette book.
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  • PolarBearFitzPolarBearFitz member
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    SRoyce2015 said:
    aefitz29 said:
    Ah I see...yes it takes a while to figure out your specifics. The most important thing to do is locate a venue to start with. Certain decor/items will go with your venue and colors you eventually select.
    I thought I had a venue.. Then I went to book it this week and found out they no longer book weddings. So now I'm back to square one. :-\
    bummers. :(
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  • clarke10clarke10 member
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    I would ask for a subscription to a wedding magazine! Great for inspiration :)
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  • AprilH81AprilH81 member
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    Gift cards to Shutterfly or photo printing service of your choice.  That can come in handy for printing out engagement photos or making photo books of wedding pictures.  I did a photo guest book with our engagement pictures and did glass pictures as part of the gifts to our parents.

    Gift cards to your favorite clothing stores that you can save up for new outfits for engagement photos and/or rehearsal dinner outfits.

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  • csuavecsuave member
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    A year and a half is far out.  Even gift cards will be something that you have to hold onto for awhile.

    If you are really looking to keep a tight budget then things like toasting glasses and guest book, etc. aren't things you need to have a wedding and can easily do without.   

    Probably the best thing to do at this point is to start a wedding savings and your family might want to contribute depending on how they feel about helping with savings as a gift.  My mom gave me a check for Christmas.  It went into savings and eventually was used to cover our marriage license cost. 

    If they are not cash as a gift types then gift cards are probably then next best thing.  If they are to a generic type place like Target or WalMart then they could be used for wedding things like thank you cards, shoes, jewelry, etc. 

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  • lizandmark2014lizandmark2014 member
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    I would ask for pens, postage and blank notecards/ stationary. I would also consider walmart/ target gift cards for the other things you might need like ribbon ect.
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  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    I highly recommend the book, A Practical Wedding. The website is an excellent resource too, but the book provides a lot of specific guidance for how to plan a simple, meaningful wedding. I found it invaluable, and it's only like $12.
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  • selenathegreatselenathegreat member
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    Stamps and books are great ideas! If you're crafty but not sure what crafts you want to do yet you could ask for a gift card to a craft store or a wedding craft book.
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  • melbelleupmelbelleup member
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    forever stamps would be a good idea :) I like that one.
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    @scribe95, what is unity candy?  I've never heard of that and google is not very helpful.
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  • ashleyepashleyep member
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    My parents refuse to give cash or gift cards as Christmas gifts, so that's not an option for me and I can't really ask for anything for my house since I'm trying to save that stuff for my registry. So one of the things I put on there was personalized thank you cards for the shower (or not personalized, I don't really care).
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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    lizandmark2014 said:
    I would ask for pens, postage and blank notecards/ stationary. I would also consider walmart/ target gift cards for the other things you might need like ribbon ect.
    I was just going to suggest stamps and I see that you did. You will go through a lot of stamps in the next year - so that is helpful. 
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  • GisellerinaGisellerina member
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    Miss Manners Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding is a really good wedding etiquette book - I found it useful and fun to read.  (My family is really into books as gifts, so I'm not sure if this idea seems weird to others).  And I love the magazine subscription idea!
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  • daniellemegandaniellemegan member
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    As it's so far out, so you don't know the details yet, probably the most helpful thing would be money to use once you figure them out. Instead of cash or specific store gift cards, ask for prepaid visa/mastercard/amex debit cards.
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  • triciaandkensweddingtriciaandkenswedding member
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    What about things for the honeymoon?  Not sure where you are going, but clothes, suntan lotion, etc.  All the things we forget about when planning a wedding, we are going a way in the next day or two!

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  • futurepastorswifefuturepastorswife member
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    Be careful with prepaid visa/amex type cards, they have a monthly fee if you don't deposit a significant amount of money each month, so if you aren't going to use them right away that could really eat up your balance.
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    scribe95 said:

    My bad. Unity candle.

    Oh ok.
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  • kitty8403kitty8403 member
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    Yeah I know people say don't ask for gift cards, and overall I agree with that rule. When my mom asked directly, though, I did tip her off that a certificate to a craft store, photographer, lingerie shop, etc would be useful right now. I'm also now doing our registry--if family members would like to get us a little something for a pre-wedding event, well, there is a list of items we need.
    I agree about stamps too!
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  • karlipreglerkarlipregler member
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    I would definitely just ask for cash, that way you can use it towards anything.

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  • heathertimsheathertims member
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    I DIYed the hell out of my wedding, sop i asked for gift cards to michaels. I also did a "tea bar" so i got a ton of David's Tea gift cards
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  • AnaelseaAnaelsea member
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    Theres a book called 

    "The Ultimate Wedding Idea Book: 1,001 Creative Ideas to Make Your Wedding Fun, Romantic, and Memorable" on Amazon by Muchnik, its helped me alot.

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