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Gift Never Arrived - What to do?

Hello all! I have a question regarding wedding gift etiquette. 

For our wedding, my (now) husband and I registered at Amazon. Amazon allows you to see when a gift was purchased for you, and by whom. 

Well, there is one gift that was purchased several weeks ago, but still has not arrived. We live in an apartment building, and I am concerned that someone stole the package from our front porch. But, there are other possible explanations as well, including standard shipping issues. 

This has been driving me crazy, because I want to make sure the gift is received (obviously!). But, I don't really know what I can do. Amazon does not allow the gift recipient to track the package; instead, only the purchaser can track the package. 

It seems logical to me to reach out to the buyer, and let them know of the shipping issues. However, the gift giver is not a close friend or relative, and is actually my boss at work. 

So, what does etiquette dictate here? Is it tacky to ask him to look up the tracking information and see what the status of the package is? Do I just let it go? 
Furthermore, I had been waiting to send individual thank you cards until the actual gift has been received. But, considering the delay, should I just send the thank you card now? 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have no experience with any of this!

Thank you!

Re: Gift Never Arrived - What to do?

  • Are you sure that the gift was sent to your address?  Is it possible that your boss bought it for her/himself (or had it sent to her/himself to give to you in person)?  I would call Amazon customer service to see if they can answer that question and provide you with tracking info--even if they cannot give you the tracking number, maybe they can just tell you the date of delivery, if it has been delivered.  Good luck!
  • I would most likely let it go, and let the giver ask me (after he didn't get a thank you card) if I had received it.  I don't know if that's the *right* thing to do, but unless it was someone I was really, really close to, I don't think I'd ask.
  • Also - have you had your wedding yet?  Many people (at least, where I'm from) bring boxed gifts to the wedding.  Your boss may be intending to do that.  Or give it to you at work when you return from your honeymoon?
  • Oh, and put "XP" in the post title when you post on multiple boards.
  • If you can't get anything else out of amazon, wait until after the wedding and after standard shipping issues are no longer a question before doing anything.  If you still haven't received it, I would then mention that it wasn't received and ask the boss about tracking.

    It would be a difficult conversation, but preferable to letting your boss think you couldn't send a thank you note and hope she'll ask.  
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