Non-traditional flower girl help!

Re: Non-traditional flower girl help!

• KittyKaty20 member

  

  November 2013

  As a child educator for the five-and-under set, I'd say that holding parasols and dropping flowers is a little too much for young hands to manage. Add that to the fact that they will be "performing" in front of your guests, and I think it'll be overwhelming, and perhaps not turn out as you envisioned.

  If you want flower petals, perhaps line the aisle with the petals before the ceremony.

  If you want both petals and parasols, have the youngest carry the parasols, and the oldest drop the flowers. You can always incorporate the parasols for all of them in the pictures.

  

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• SomethingBeautiful08 member

  

  November 2013

  Try it yourself... go find an umbrella, a basket and tear up some newspaper and try walking down the sidewalk, holding the umbrella a spread the newspaper out elegantly while still looking elegant and graceful.  I think I would struggle with that task.  I think either option is good, just don't ask one person to do both.
  

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  November 2013

  SomethingBeautiful08 said:

  Try it yourself... go find an umbrella, a basket and tear up some newspaper and try walking down the sidewalk, holding the umbrella a spread the newspaper out elegantly while still looking elegant and graceful.  I think I would struggle with that task.  I think either option is good, just don't ask one person to do both.
  

  Yea, I think doing both is a little much to ask.  I could see possibly doing both by holding the parasol in the crook of the right arm and the basket in the right hand and then dropping with the left hand (or vice versa) but I think that would be a more than a little difficult for girls of that age to manage without dropping the parasol.  My flower girl was seven and I'm pretty sure she couldn't have done that.  (In fact, she was so shy she didn't even drop the pedals when she walked down the aisle.)

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  November 2013

  ElizabethJensen516 said:

  I have three very special little nieces that will be our flower girls walking down the aisle with three very special little nephews. For our outdoor spring wedding we are looking to do things a little differently and laid back. I purchased parasols for the flower girls to hold while walking down the aisle but I can't decide if they should still drop petals. Would it be too difficult for girls (ages 5-7) to hold a parasol and carry a flower basket or perhaps a little twine lantern? Or would it be cute enough for them to just hold parasols? What are your opinions ladies?

  It's near difficult for an adult to hold a parasol and a basket and throw petals.  Asking a child to do it is asking for a disaster.  Pick one or the other.

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• SP29 member

  

  November 2013

  Agreed- pick one or the other. 

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• cowgirl8238 member

  

  November 2013

  I would stick with just one option, kitykaty20 gave you good advice!

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• daveANDkristen member

  

  November 2013

  Another option - have the girls carry a parasol and a pomander, like this girl (couldn't find one of the two carried together, but it shouldn't be too difficult

  

  
  

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• PolarBearFitz member

  

  November 2013

  SomethingBeautiful08 said:

  Try it yourself... go find an umbrella, a basket and tear up some newspaper and try walking down the sidewalk, holding the umbrella a spread the newspaper out elegantly while still looking elegant and graceful.  I think I would struggle with that task.  I think either option is good, just don't ask one person to do both.
  

  I think I would end up poking myself in the eye with the damn umbrella.
  

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• Inkdancer member

  

  November 2013

  Asking kids under 10 to do one task with focus is challenging enough. Asking them to do two things at once... no way! I would ask one or two to hold parasols and one to spread flowers.
  

  

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  November 2013

  I think it would be hard for kids that age to do both at once...maybe one could hold a parasol and the other two could scatter the flowers.  I myself would probably not bother with the parasol.
  

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• erinlin25 member

  

  November 2013

  I don't even think I would be able to hold a parasol and throw flowers, lol.  Agree to pick one or the other.  My FG was little so we just had the petals already scattered on the aisle and she held a little basket of flowers.  Do that but have them carry the parasols rather than a basket.   
  

  
  
  
  

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• ElizabethJensen516 member

  

  November 2013

  Thanks! After I thought about it for a bit I realized it would look too busy, aside from being too difficult for the little ones. I love my parasols and I think I might spread the flowers down before. After all, I am trying to be a little less traditional than most weddings. Thanks everyone! Happy wedding planning!

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• SP29 member

  

  November 2013

  I wouldn't do the parasol and pomander either. I think they will need both hands for the parasol. Sure, you could just hand the pomander in one hand anyway, but then I think they will look "full" walking down the aisle, possibly struggling versus relaxed.

  
  

  Some could carry the parasol while others carry flowers. 

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• Kohl95 member

  

  November 2013

  For our two flower girls, 1 girl is going to pass out flowers to the person on the end of the aisle and the other will be scattering (fake) rose petals, due to having the wedding in dirt lol. 

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