Bridesmaid colours - hint for other guests

misemise · November 2013

I would like to put a post on our wedding blog so that other (female) guests don't wear the same color as the bridesmaids on the day. So my BMs will be wearing navy blue so I would like to put a fun hint on our blog that indicates they girls are wearing this color so that other guests don't show up wearing the same thing... Any creative ideas on how I should do this? Any fun wording or song? Help needed!

southernbelle0915 · November 2013

misemise said:

I would like to put a post on our wedding blog so that other (female) guests don't wear the same color as the bridesmaids on the day. So my BMs will be wearing navy blue so I would like to put a fun hint on our blog that indicates they girls are wearing this color so that other guests don't show up wearing the same thing... Any creative ideas on how I should do this? Any fun wording or song? Help needed!

There is no cute way to tell guests what they can and can't wear to your wedding.

I also had navy blue BM dresses. I just tried to think back if any female guests also wore navy blue and I have no idea. This is not something you should even think twice about. It'll be obvious who's a BM. My mom's dress was kind of navy - kind of purple. It was a non-issue. It was obvious she was the MOB and that the BMs were BMs.

doeydo · November 2013

You can't tell people not to wear navy because your bridesmaids are. No one will be confused if someone shows up in the same or a similar colour to the BM's dresses.

princessleia22 · November 2013

It is pretty rude to tell people what they can or can't wear to a wedding. You can have an opinion on most things with your wedding, but the attire of your guests shouldn't be one of them. Most likely, your BM's will be more formal style than the other guests, so I doubt there will be any confusion.

climbingsingle · November 2013

What will happen if a guest shows up in a navy blue dress? Will your wedding be ruined?

You can't dictate to adults what they can and cannot wear.

saacjw · November 2013

nicoann said:

It is pretty rude to tell people what they can or can't wear to a wedding. You can have an opinion on most things with your wedding, but the attire of your guests shouldn't be one of them. Most likely, your BM's will be more formal style than the other guests, so I doubt there will be any confusion.

This. The guests that are concerned that they'll match will figure out the colors and ask you or someone who knows. I typically check the invitation to get an idea of what the colors will be because I know a lot of people use the same theme.

Also- navy blue is a common color that looks good on a lot of people, there's no way to say "don't wear this color" and not be rude. Odds are, someone will probably wear it, especially if men wear suits to the wedding. Honestly, day of, you are very unlikely to notice what anyone is wearing for more than a minute.

misssunshine17 · November 2013

This is so so so rude. My BMs wore navy and nude shoes and three separate guests wore the same. Not one person, myself included, gave a fuck. If you wrote that on your page, I would wear it just to spite you since I'm an adult and can dress myself thank.you.very.much.

MobKaz · November 2013

My daughter had her BM's all wear black. Do you have any idea how many female guests also wore black? How many of your guests would even look at your blog?

If you are this presumptuous with your guests, I certainly hope this is not an indication of your attitude toward the MOG and MOB attire!

misemise · November 2013

I'm not at all worried about the Bridesmaids not standing out or not being identifiable...

I was at a wedding last year and a friend wore a dress that was very very similar in style to the bridesmaids and certainly an identical color. She was mortified and it really bugged her. The whole day she had people approaching her asking her questions (where to leave gifts, cards, etc)... I just thought to save a similar embarrassing situation happening for one of my guests, it would be no harm to give people a heads up on colors... My friend really didn't enjoy the day with all the teasing - and genuine questions! - from guests just because she wore the same color as the bridesmaids...

Our wedding will be in Europe where wedding guests tend to really dress up so the bridesmaids may not necessarily "stand out" just because they are more formal...

Given the reaction on this thread, I might be better not putting anything on our site about colors. People seem really offended and my intent was anything but... merely just to save an avoidable situation for one of my guests on the day....

itzMS · November 2013

misemise said:
I'm not at all worried about the Bridesmaids not standing out or not being identifiable...

I was at a wedding last year and a friend wore a dress that was very very similar in style to the bridesmaids and certainly an identical color. She was mortified and it really bugged her. The whole day she had people approaching her asking her questions (where to leave gifts, cards, etc)... I just thought to save a similar embarrassing situation happening for one of my guests, it would be no harm to give people a heads up on colors... My friend really didn't enjoy the day with all the teasing - and genuine questions! - from guests just because she wore the same color as the bridesmaids...

Our wedding will be in Europe where wedding guests tend to really dress up so the bridesmaids may not necessarily "stand out" just because they are more formal...

Given the reaction on this thread, I might be better not putting anything on our site about colors. People seem really offended and my intent was anything but... merely just to save an avoidable situation for one of my guests on the day....

If a guest knows she personally has the tendency to be "mortified" if she may be in the same color as the bridesmaids, it's fine for her to call and ask the bride.

I have no idea why in the world a guest would be mortified, though. It's NBD.

misssunshine17 · November 2013

If anyone really cares, they will ask prior to the wedding.

tammym1001 · November 2013

I try not to wear the same color as the bridesmaids if I know what they will be wearing. It's just a weird thing I have. Generally, if I don't know then I will look at the wedding stationary, etc for colors and I will stay away from those. I think anyone who is really concerned about that would do the same.

CTYankeeBride · November 2013

You can't ever tell guests what not to wear. If your reception has special circumstances, you can indicate something about that on the reception card and/or website, but that is really reserved for things like "black tie," or "beach party reception" or "masquerade ball" or even "please be sure your shoulders are covered for the ceremony in the church," (if it's a requirement) and it is to let your guests know so that they will be comfortably dressed but even still you can't tell them "do not wear your high heels to my beach clam bake."

I went to a wedding where the bride put "Please don't wear white, that's reserved for the bride

!!!!!!

!" on her wedding website. People are still talking about that, and not fondly. Even with all of her hearts and smiles, it wasn't endearing.

If you have a guest who will be self-conscious showing up dressed like one of the BM's, it's up to the guest to find out that information. You can casually spread the word. For instance, at your shower, it isn't wrong to indicate that you're so happy your bridesmaids decided on these lovely navy blue dresses. It's fine to tell an anecdote about how your mother didn't want to wear navy for fear she'd match the bridesmaids. Some people will take note and choose accordingly, others won't and in the end, what your guests wear is a small detail and one that you have no control over at that.

SheMarie82 · November 2013

I just saw on facebook that a friend "tagged" the ladies that are presumably invtied to the wedding, said that she was wearing a black dress. She also indicated that her preference is for others to be wearing either red or ivory. I couldn't believe it! I think that is a wedding that I would choose to not go to.

hyechica81 · November 2013

you cant dictate what you can and cant wear to a wedding, if the girls are in navy and someone else comes in navy so let it be. if its a family members wedding i will find out what bridal party is wearing and try not to wear the same color. with my sil they wore purple i stayed away from purple.

if i was invited a to wedding and the blog i was following for them said no guest to be in navy or black i would be totaly offended and might not respond with a yes or i would go but wear black

[Deleted User] · November 2013

You can't tell your guests what NOT to wear you CAN tell your guests what your BMs will be wearing.

Perhaps a better question would be, what would be a cute way to let people know what color our BMs will be wearing just in case they don't want to match?

If you phrase your question like that you might get a few less snarky remarks!

I personally think it wouldn't hurt to have a wedding colors heads up area on your weddig website.

Maggie0829 · November 2013

Sorry but this issue just doesn't matter. At all. Zero. Zip. Nada.

[Deleted User] · November 2013

Maggie0829 said:

Sorry but this issue just doesn't matter. At all. Zero. Zip. Nada.

It doesn't matter to you. It obviously matters to the OP.

MobKaz · November 2013

clairekundinger said:

You can't tell your guests what NOT to wear you CAN tell your guests what your BMs will be wearing. Perhaps a better question would be, what would be a cute way to let people know what color our BMs will be wearing just in case they don't want to match? If you phrase your question like that you might get a few less snarky remarks! I personally think it wouldn't hurt to have a wedding colors heads up area on your weddig website.

There is no cute way needed to convey unnecessary and inappropriate information. Not once have I ever wondered, "Hmmm....I wonder what color the BM dresses will be?" It's a non-issue.

[Deleted User] · November 2013

mobkaz said:

clairekundinger said:

You can't tell your guests what NOT to wear you CAN tell your guests what your BMs will be wearing. Perhaps a better question would be, what would be a cute way to let people know what color our BMs will be wearing just in case they don't want to match? If you phrase your question like that you might get a few less snarky remarks! I personally think it wouldn't hurt to have a wedding colors heads up area on your weddig website.
There is no cute way needed to convey unnecessary and inappropriate information. Not once have I ever wondered, "Hmmm....I wonder what color the BM dresses will be?" It's a non-issue.

Well again, just because YOU haven't wondered doesn't mean that other people haven't.

I think that the bride and groom should get to choose what information they think is important enough to put on their wedding website.

AddieCake · November 2013

It's not appropriate to tell people what to wear unless your wedding is black or white tie or the venue has a dress code. Who cares if someone wears the same color as the bridesmaids? It affects nothing.

mysticl · November 2013

Someone else mentioned the invites. You could put some navy blue on them. People usually assume that if there is color on the invites it is one of the wedding colors and won't wear that color if it matters to them.

Maggie0829 · November 2013

Maggie0829 said:

Sorry but this issue just doesn't matter. At all. Zero. Zip. Nada.

It doesn't matter to you. It obviously matters to the OP.

But it shouldn't matter to the OP. That is what I was trying to get across.

There is no way to convey a color that your guests should not wear without coming across sounding like a crazy ass, controlling bride.

It does not matter if your guests are wearing your wedding colors. No one will notice, nor care, including the bride. The bride tends to have a lot more on her mind the day of her wedding then what her other guests are wearing.

And if you really don't want your guests to wear the same color as your BMs then you should pick a random, uncommon color (meaning not navy) for the BMs to wear.

Again, this issue doesn't matter. At all.

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