First Birthday Party Etiquette FAIL!

AllyIdo · November 2013

Got invited to the first birthday party of a family friend's son today. Via Facebook.

Title: "Baby XXX's First Birthday!! (Friend's party)

WTF does that mean? "Friend's Party?" Was there another party for family?

There was a note about gifts:
"Here are a few gift ideas for xxxx. We have registries at Toys r Us and Target (links)

OR, you can donate to XXX's college fund!
(Another link)

Looked at the date. It's this Saturday! Did a little digging on the Facebook invite. Was originally sent out at the end of September!! And I'm just getting it today! Not only was I B listed, but I'm expected to pick a gift from a registry.

Won't be going to this one ladies!

Vivandiere8 · November 2013

This is hilarious! Horrible, and hilarious! You would think it was satire as opposed to being a real baby b-day invite. When I first read the title for this post I thought "What?... There is no etiquette rules for a baby's birthday party..." But that is because I never would have imagined someone would think that all that they wrote in the invite was acceptable. A gift registry!?!?! And the real kicker is the B-listing. Just reading this post would be a good skit for a stand up comic.

I wonder if they will have a Baby's 2nd Birthday Party next year... Each on only happens once!

Lored · November 2013

Ugh, it's like so many wrongs on one invite. I couldn't attend any one, but thats just me. So wrong...so why would I ever spend X amount on anything. When I want to spend I will. Please do not dictate to me when I can.

Rebl90 · November 2013

Hold up, now you can register for a birthday party?? I cannot believe some people

ktjanesmom · November 2013

This is gross.

cmclaire · November 2013

Ugh.

melbelleup · November 2013

Sounds like a fantastic party. not.

climbingsingle · November 2013

I was invited to something similar! Only I received a text that said:

We're going to do a friend party for Jason's birthday at 6pm on 11/16. Hope to see you there.

Is the friend party thing just a separate party from the family party? It seems kind of gift grabby, right?

PolarBearFitz · November 2013

Rebl90 said:

Hold up, now you can register for a birthday party?? I cannot believe some people

Holy crap people register for children's birthday parties?! SINCE WHEN?!

I've only ever been to family/close friend related first birthday parties. This is a lot of ridiculous. I have to laugh at the B-listing for a birthday party. That is really the cherry on top.

AllyIdo · November 2013

I have to also tell you guys that this girl is THE WORST on Facebook. All she does is post about their "tough times" and how much it sucks to be her. She got fired from her job, got knocked up, had a quickie wedding and money is tight. I definitely feel for them but really, STFU already.

She had surgery and sent out a link to some website where people could sign up and volunteer to make them meals. I guess I can understand someone doing this for someone else... Maybe for something very serious and lengthy. This girl just didn't want have to worry about dinner for three nights. And published on Facebook, unreal.

She also once posted that her aunt was considering throwing a fundraiser for her family. She was asking Facebook friends to suggest a hall or banquet facility. No one responded. So the next day she puts up a new post, "since no one has responded about the fundraiser I'm assuming that no one thinks it's a worthy cause or good idea."

THE WORST!!

climbingsingle · November 2013

AllyIdo said:

I have to also tell you guys that this girl is THE WORST on Facebook. All she does is post about their "tough times" and how much it sucks to be her. She got fired from her job, got knocked up, had a quickie wedding and money is tight. I definitely feel for them but really, STFU already. She had surgery and sent out a link to some website where people could sign up and volunteer to make them meals. I guess I can understand someone doing this for someone else... Maybe for something very serious and lengthy. This girl just didn't want have to worry about dinner for three nights. And published on Facebook, unreal. She also once posted that her aunt was considering throwing a fundraiser for her family. She was asking Facebook friends to suggest a hall or banquet facility. No one responded. So the next day she puts up a new post, "since no one has responded about the fundraiser I'm assuming that no one thinks it's a worthy cause or good idea." THE WORST!!

Omg. That is bananas. A fundraiser because she lost her job?!!?

futurepastorswife · November 2013

I'm turning 35 this year, can I do a registry for my birthday?? I had no idea you could do that, not that you SHOULD because you shouldn't.

I do get the family vs friend party thing, especially if you have older family members that don't want to be around a bunch of screaming kids...Or a large family and its cheaper/or you only have space for so many people - but even that is a reach.

photokitty · November 2013

The only reason to have a friend party is if the kids is old enough to have a party with his/ her friends - their OWN AGE, not their parent's friends! Then they can have a family party that doesn't include laser tag or making teddy bears.

Again when you are older (21) and you have a friends party full of booze and debauchery, versus the family dinner where mom and dad are welcome :-p

thelastdreamer · November 2013

Good grief. I'm sorry but if she put as much energy into "fundraising" efforts via birthday parties and begging on the internet, she could probably have found a job by now.

marshmallow1982 · November 2013

Is no-one shocked at the request to donate to baby's college fund?

Hope its in some sort of a trust Mum can't touch, considering they've already tried to do a fundraiser for their family, I don't know if I would trust them.

nsweare · November 2013

I'm sure she'll decide that her quickie wedding wasn't good enough and fundraise herself a real nice PPD soon.

cowgirl8238 · November 2013

thelastdreamer said:

Good grief. I'm sorry but if she put as much energy into "fundraising" efforts via birthday parties and begging on the internet, she could probably have found a job by now.

That is what I was thinking too!

marshmallow1982 said:

Is no-one shocked at the request to donate to baby's college fund?

Hope its in some sort of a trust Mum can't touch, considering they've already tried to do a fundraiser for their family, I don't know if I would trust them.

I am almost certain she would be dipping into that money. I can't believe what some people will put on Facebook! Also how many of her Facebook Friends are really her friends??? I can't imagine many people acutally like this person!

nsweare said:

I'm sure she'll decide that her quickie wedding wasn't good enough and fundraise herself a real nice PPD soon.

LOL! ~That's all I have for this~

southernbelle0915 · November 2013

WTH - people seriously have no shame. It's one thing to register for a hosted shower, but it's way off base to register for a 1st birthday party. Talk about gift grabby.

The B-listing puts this one over the top. Yuck!

daveANDkristen · November 2013

Vivandiere8 said:

This is hilarious! Horrible, and hilarious! You would think it was satire as opposed to being a real baby b-day invite. When I first read the title for this post I thought "What?... There is no etiquette rules for a baby's birthday party..." But that is because I never would have imagined someone would think that all that they wrote in the invite was acceptable. A gift registry!?!?! And the real kicker is the B-listing. Just reading this post would be a good skit for a stand up comic.

I wonder if they will have a Baby's 2nd Birthday Party next year... Each on only happens once!

If you are hosting anything there are accepted "dos" and "don'ts"... etiquette always applies! A child's birthday party is no different.

Ugh this person sounds like a trainwreck. I have a few of those among my Facebook friends too... I feel bad but I just.can't.look.away.

AllyIdo · November 2013

Exactly! People tell me I should defriend her but I can't do that because of family! I know I could just ignore her feed or hide it but it's impossible to do... Pleasure spiked with pain or something else LOL

itzMS · November 2013

These are the moments when I purchase the baby/child a loud, obnoxious toy. With no gift receipt.

FWIW, I also have a FB friend who puts "suggested gifts" on Birthday events for her children.

HisGirlFriday13 · November 2013

We always had friends/family parties when I was little, but the 'friends' party was for us and six or so friends with a cake and games and whatnot.

The ''family' party was a nice dinner at home with my grandparents, who were spared the joys of seven little girls hyped up on sugar watching Disney movies.

The only time my mom's friend came to our bday parties was for my brother, because her son and my brother were the same age and good friends. So the son was invited to the friend party and his mom came to keep my mom company. But they've also been friends since they were in diapers.

Jen4948 · November 2013

When I've attended first birthday parties, there were no registries and it was basically just a family party. And there were definitely no requests for contributions to a college fund.

I'd ignore the registries and if you go, give a gift of your own choice that's suitable for a 1 year old.

tabathafaye · November 2013

Target and Amazon both have wish lists that could be used for birthdays/holidays.

Amyzen83 · November 2013

Are you sure you were B-listed? I know for a fact FB is notorious for sending out invites to guests in increments if you invite over a certain amount of people... so may let that one slide... However the rest of it sounds like a train wreck. Granted I've always celebrated my bday more than once, one where I celebrated privately and one with friends. In fact this has been common with most of my friends and that's due to the fact that it's kind of awkward mixing the two if extended family was involved.

However I'm baffled by this new trend of registrying for BIRTHDAY PARTIES! This is the train wreck! My grandma told me when I was little that anytime you mention presents when hosting a party - primarily birthday parties, then people may only think they are invited for the gifts not necessarily because they are your friend or family. So ever since then I never even mentioned gifts when inviting people to my birthdays, and yes I got things I wanted and some odd things, but for me it was about celebrating with the people I care about.

Oh and this reminds me that a new feature in Amazon, you can now "share" your wishlist on your social media! *facepalm*

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