Basically, I got engaged almost a year ago and I asked my bridal party way too soon. I just didn't know any better until I started lurking, and obviously I realized my mistake too late.
I have a bridesmaid who lives on the other side of the state, and we never speak. I have tried to talk to her, on Facebook, text messages, and I never get a response. I've gotten a couple, but they're really short, one word responses. She had a baby a couple years ago and we grew apart after that, but I still felt close enough to ask her to be a bridesmaid. We sent STDate's recently and I didn't hear anything from her about if she recieved it or not.
I'm at the point now where I'm ready to start talking bridesmaid dresses, and the last thing I want to do is text her out of the blue and ask for her dress budget. I don't feel like she cares much about what's going on in my life, and I definitely don't think she cares about the wedding. Which is fine. At this point I honestly don't think I care if she comes or not, we have grown that far apart. I'm irritated that I have been putting in effort and it's not returned. She's always been a pretty flaky person, so even in the beginning, I was semi-sure she would no show anyway. Especially since we're not inviting children to the wedding and she's from OOT.
What are my options? Just continue trying to talk to her? Do my best to talk to her about her dress budget and hope she gets one and shows up?