One of my dear friends and bridesmaids recently discovered she is pregnant. Coincidentally, her due date is 2 days before my wedding. She is in the higher risk age bracket for pregnancy/birth complications, and her first child was nearly lost during birth (he'll be one in a week!). Because of the risk, her doctor advised that, whether she's had her baby by the wedding or not, she not travel long distances. The wedding venue is a two hour drive from her house, and the doctor told her even that was too far.
She was felt conflicted about not being able to stand up (possibly literally lol) in the wedding and said she still wants to help out with "bridesmaid duties" (her words, not mine). Of course I told her that I expect nothing from her, but she wants to be part of everything and help plan the shower and bachelorette party that my MOH discussed with her.
Here's my question: Her name is up on my wedding website as part of the bridal party. We sent out save the dates last week so people have already seen the site. Should I take her name down or leave it up? I know it's not likely that she would be able to attend, and if she were able, I feel like it would only be if the baby was premature or she had a miscarriage (both stressful situations that would still probably keep her from coming). I want her to know that I am so happy for her and that I honor our friendship. Will it be hurtful if I take her name off of the list on the website? What would all you wonderful etiquette gurus do in this situation?