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OK to hand out STDs at Thanksgiving?

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Because I am a master procrastinator, I still haven't sent out my STDs. I will be seeing quite a few of my family members at our Thanksgiving dinner. Is it OK to hand them the STDs? Also, should I write their full names on the envelopes, like how I would if I sent them through the mail? I thought about not writing names at all, but I want to make sure my cousin knows his children are invited. 
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  • clarke10clarke10 member
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    As long as everyone who will be at Thanksgiving is invited, then that should be fine. If not everyone is invited, you should probably just mail them.

    As far as names, I would go ahead and write everyone who will be invited with their invitation. 
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    Because I am a master procrastinator, I still haven't sent out my STDs. I will be seeing quite a few of my family members at our Thanksgiving dinner. Is it OK to hand them the STDs? Also, should I write their full names on the envelopes, like how I would if I sent them through the mail? I thought about not writing names at all, but I want to make sure my cousin knows his children are invited. 
    I think its fine to hand them out. You could write the full names, but i would probably just tell my cousin when I handed it to him that the kids were invited too.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Yup, everyone that will be there is invited. 
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    If everyone is invited, it's fine. I would just write the names out completely. 
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    It might not be a breach of etiquette, but it might not be logistically ideal. Unless you hand them to people as they're walking out the door, the guests will have to find a place to keep your Save the Date while they're enjoying their meal and family time. I would bet money that half of the StDs you give out this way will be lost.
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  • annathy03annathy03 member
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    Yup, everyone that will be there is invited. 
    Since everyone at Thanksgiving is invited it's fine.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    Personally, I wouldn't do it.  Run to the post office, have them mail them off and call it a day.  To me, Thanksgiving shouldn't have wedding related stuff of one of the couples incorporated in it.  
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    I agree with @doeydo - I wouldn't do it. Why can't you just run them to the post office now? I would think you were being a bit of an AW if you decided to use Thanksgiving to handout invites.


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    I wouldn't do it either. If someone handed me a STD at Thanksgiving dinner I would side-eye it a little. Just run to the post office. 
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    Sorry Double post :/

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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    I don't think it is wrong, but i do see the point that Inkdancer brought up about them getting lost or misplaced during the course of the day. I know I would manage to misplace mine!
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    bethsmiles said:
    I agree with @doeydo - I wouldn't do it. Why can't you just run them to the post office now? I would think you were being a bit of an AW if you decided to use Thanksgiving to handout invites.
    How am I being an AW by handing a Save The Date to my aunts and uncles and cousin? That's a bit of a stretch. 
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:

    bethsmiles said:
    I agree with @doeydo - I wouldn't do it. Why can't you just run them to the post office now? I would think you were being a bit of an AW if you decided to use Thanksgiving to handout invites.
    How am I being an AW by handing a Save The Date to my aunts and uncles and cousin? That's a bit of a stretch. 
    I get where she's coming from. Thanksgiving is a family holiday that doesn't need to have anything to do with your wedding. One could argue that you're putting the attention on your wedding. 
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    Mail them.

    Less aggrevation all around

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    clarke10 said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:

    bethsmiles said:
    I agree with @doeydo - I wouldn't do it. Why can't you just run them to the post office now? I would think you were being a bit of an AW if you decided to use Thanksgiving to handout invites.
    How am I being an AW by handing a Save The Date to my aunts and uncles and cousin? That's a bit of a stretch. 
    I get where she's coming from. Thanksgiving is a family holiday that doesn't need to have anything to do with your wedding. One could argue that you're putting the attention on your wedding. 
    Oh, so I guess the Power Point presentation I was going to make everyone sit through is a bad idea too? Ok, no wedding talk at Thanksgiving! 
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    clarke10 said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:

    bethsmiles said:
    I agree with @doeydo - I wouldn't do it. Why can't you just run them to the post office now? I would think you were being a bit of an AW if you decided to use Thanksgiving to handout invites.
    How am I being an AW by handing a Save The Date to my aunts and uncles and cousin? That's a bit of a stretch. 
    I get where she's coming from. Thanksgiving is a family holiday that doesn't need to have anything to do with your wedding. One could argue that you're putting the attention on your wedding. 
    Oh, so I guess the Power Point presentation I was going to make everyone sit through is a bad idea too? Ok, no wedding talk at Thanksgiving! 

    Climbing, I am on your side, most of the time my family gets together, everyone asks about wedding things and there is a discussion....its not like its made the focus of everythig..I think you are fine... You know your family best.
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  • csuavecsuave member
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    I think it is fine.  The only reason not to that I can think of is that people may forget them or lose track of them.  Another option may be to get an early start on Christmas cards (if you send them) and include the STD with the card.

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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    If everyone is invited and you know your family well - go for it. If you think they would be annoyed by it, then don't.

    Personally, I would if I were you. And I don't think anyone will care. I don't think it pulls focus from the rest of the Thanksgiving meal or anything.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Since everyone at the Thanksgiving dinner is invited, I don't think it's wrong per etiquette to hand the STDs out at that time, but logistically it might not be the best way to go.  I agree with @Inkdancer that people tend not to keep track of items handed out as opposed to mailed.
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