Groom's parents are deceased

Re: Groom's parents are deceased

• manateehugger member

  

  December 2013

  You probably won't like the etiquette answer. 

  
  

  Technically, the only names that belong on your invitation are yours, your FI's, and your hosts' (so either you or your parents). A deceased person cannot host, and therefore should not be listed on the invitation. Remember that being on an invitation is not an honor - it merely lists the hosts and individuals getting married. Your fiance's parents' names should go in your program, if you have one. 

  
  

  Here's a guide for you: http://www.crane.com/etiquette/wedding/wedding-invitations

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  December 2013

  
  

  PDKH said:

  You probably won't like the etiquette answer. 

  
  

  Technically, the only names that belong on your invitation are yours, your FI's, and your hosts' (so either you or your parents). A deceased person cannot host, and therefore should not be listed on the invitation. Remember that being on an invitation is not an honor - it merely lists the hosts and individuals getting married. Your fiance's parents' names should go in your program, if you have one. 

  
  

  Here's a guide for you: http://www.crane.com/etiquette/wedding/wedding-invitations

  This.
  
  The persons "honored" by a wedding invitation are neither the couple nor the hosts, but the guests.
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  December 2013

  I agree with @PDKH. The only other acceptable alternative would be:

  
  

  Mr. and Mrs. Gerald O'Hara 
  request the honour of your presence/pleasure of your company*
  

  at the marriage of their daughter

  Susan Elinor

  to

  Frank Kennedy

  son of the late Mr. and Mrs. Charles Kennedy

  at time/date/place

  
  

  
  

  
  

  * (the former if your wedding is in a church, the latter if it's not physically in a church building)
  

  at the marriage of their daughter

  
  

  But technically, the only names on the invites are those of the hosts. In some cases, it's helpful to include the names of the parents in case the parents are the one insisting on the invitation being issued and the couple is aware that the invitees won't recognize the couple's names without the parents' names.

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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