this is the code for the render ad
Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Attire & Accessories Forum
Attire & Accessories Forum
New Discussion

Are you changing?

jenayjerwajenayjerwa member
First Comment
in Attire & Accessories Forum
Hi ladies! I'm getting married in October of next year, and I've ordered my dream dress. I really would love to wear it all night, as it's the only day I'll ever wear it, but it's HUGE! Here is the dress:


It's really larger than life in person and not only is it relatively difficult to walk and move in, but I'm terribly afraid that - mostly because of our four hour open bar - sloppy guests are going to step all over it and tear it by the end of the night. :( Is that a ridiculous fear, or should I really be looking at a reception dress perhaps to change into after dinner? Thank you in advance for your advice. :) 
Report Reply to Post

Re: Are you changing?

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
    Eighth Anniversary 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    I never understood the point of changing. You spend all of this money on a gorgeous gown and then only wear it for an hour or two. It seems like a waste of money. It also seems like when trying on dresses you didn't give much thought to how comfortable you would be or how easily you could move in it.

    As for people stepping your gown or it getting dirty.  This will happen no matter how hard you try to prevent it.  Most people will be careful around your dress, they certainly won't step on it on purpose.  Also, just because you have a 4 hour open bar does not mean your guests will all get sloppy drunk and start stepping on your dress.  Most adults know their tolerance and area bel to control themselves properly even though there is free alcohol.

    My neighbor got married recently and she wore a Vera that was just as big as yours.  She wore it the whole night without issue.  Remember that once you alter the length of the dress and the train is bustled the dress becomes a lot easier to move around in.

    Report Reply
  • vt&dtvt&dt member
    250 Love Its 100 Comments First Anniversary First Answer
    It's beautiful!  I think that if it's properly hemmed and bustled (and if you wear the same heel height through the night so the bottom of the dress doesn't fall on the floor or over your feet) you should be fine.  Are you hoping to sell the dress after you wear it?  That would be the only real reason I'd be nervous.  I don't think that what you're afraid of is likely to happen.

    You might want to give your guests the benefit of the doubt when it comes to their behavior at a reception with an open bar - I've been to many weddings with open bars and have never seen anyone get "sloppy".
    Report Reply
  • jenayjerwajenayjerwa member
    First Comment
    prettybirdy27 said:

    Most people are going to be really careful to not step on the dress, so you probably won't have to worry about that.  As long as you have it bustled so you're not dragging a train around, you should be fine.  You'll probably get a couple accidental steps here and there though.  I had a mermaid dress that I added a ton of crinoline under so the bottom flare was HUGE and people were really good about not stepping on it all night.  So those are things I wouldn't worry about.

    I don't normally care for the idea of changing into a second dress, because trust me - once you take off that dress, the magic is gone.  But if you are afraid you won't be able to move freely or if you may be uncomfortable, it would't be a bad idea to have a backup dress in the wings just in case you decide to change.  It might be worth changing out of if you are struggling to breathe on the dance floor and not enjoying yourself.


    Thank you for your response. I agree with the magic of the dress notion and really was sad about the thought of having to change.
    Report Reply
  • jenayjerwajenayjerwa member
    First Comment

     

    vt&dt said:
    It's beautiful!  I think that if it's properly hemmed and bustled (and if you wear the same heel height through the night so the bottom of the dress doesn't fall on the floor or over your feet) you should be fine.  Are you hoping to sell the dress after you wear it?  That would be the only real reason I'd be nervous.  I don't think that what you're afraid of is likely to happen.

    You might want to give your guests the benefit of the doubt when it comes to their behavior at a reception with an open bar - I've been to many weddings with open bars and have never seen anyone get "sloppy".


    No, I absolutely do not plan on selling the dress. It's just so beautiful that I would rather it didn't get dirty or torn. :)

    As for giving our guests the benefit of the doubt, my fiance's rowdy college guy friends will all be there. That group is who I'm worried about specifically, haha.

    Report Reply
  • chibiyuichibiyui member
    5000 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary 5 Answers
    I have a much smaller gown but I am not going to change out of it. Seriously, I am wearing that bitch all night long. 
    image



    Anniversary
    Report Reply
  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
    Moderator 10000 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary
    It sounds like you're in love with this gown. Don't change unless you find a dress that you're equally as in love with and WANT to change into for the reception. 

    Guests will be very careful not to step on your dress. I wouldn't worry about that. 
    *********************************************************************************

    image
    Report Reply
  • vmj23vmj23 member
    Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments 250 Love Its 5 Answers
    I would never even consider changing!  I love my dress and am sad that I can only wear it once as it is, I definitely wouldn't want to cut that time to only a couple hours!   
    Report Reply
  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
    Knottie Warrior 500 Love Its 1000 Comments First Answer
    I have a big gown and I know it'll be be hot. But, as others have said, I love my dress and I can't imagine wanting to take it off! That said, I will have a less formal dress on hand in case it comes to that. 
    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
    Report Reply
  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary 5 Answers
    Don't change! I'm with Maggie, I don't understand it either. 

    As for getting dirty/ripping, my brand new H stepped on my dress and busted the bustle (all three points) right after dinner, it'l happen. Just roll with it.
    Report Reply
  • kitty8403kitty8403 member
    1000 Comments 250 Love Its First Answer Name Dropper
    I have yet to buy a dress because practical stuff like being able to move and dance is important to me. I don't understand why you would only want to feel like a bride for 15 minutes or so and then have to go change--for lurkers, I would suggest considering the day you have planned when you are shopping!

    but since you have your dress and you love it, just WEAR it! You'll never wear it again, so why not go all out?
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards