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karkee8807 · December 2013

sarals24 · December 2013

Don't worry about it. If she is a runner than she is used to races and how they affect her body. Plus, if she's already signed up than she's probably already paid, and if she says she can make it to your wedding on time and ready to go than I would let her make that decision, she knows her body and its limits better than you do!

Viczaesar · December 2013

karkee8807 said:

Hi!
Last week I asked one of my closest friends to be my bridesmaid. She was very exited and said yes. I was set on the date of Oct 4th and prepared to put down the deposit this past Saturday. However the original venue turned out to be sketchy and some red flags went up and we decided to go else where. It happens, lifes goes on. I was lucky to find an AMAZING venue over the weekend. We thought about it for a few days and booked the venue yesterday but the date changed to Sept 27th! Again, was fine. My fiance and I just wanted an early fall wedding. I let my bridesmaid know of the change and it was no problem. Until my MOH pointed out it was the day of the area marathon. I'm not a runner so i didnt know. My bridesmaid then remembered she already signed up for the half marathon but says she will be able to get to the wedding. I am VERY worried this might not work out since she isnt going to be in a good wedding condition since races take a toll on people. I am a pretty laid back bride, but the last thing I want is to stress about is her condition because of a race, if she will be on time, there to help me, if she will be rested, able to dance and be fun, ect,. I do not see how she can have time to do both. I understand she might pick the race over my wedding. Advice on handling this???

Well, no fear - it's not her job to help you and you shouldn't be micromanaging her to the extent that it's your concern whether she'll be rested, be able to dance, or be fun (wtf?).

manateehugger · December 2013

Well - it's not her job to help you. Trust your friend that if she says she can make it there, she can make it there. This is not something to get overly worked up about.

She could be sick on the day of your wedding and not be up for dancing or fun...

SomethingBeautiful08 · December 2013

My experience with runners is that their condition can vary dramatically after a race depending on a lot of factors. Races are also generally in the morning and assuming your wedding is in the evening she will probably have a few hours to recover. My advice is to just let it go and let her make a choice about what is best for her. You have no control over it so it is not worth stressing over.

Giaspo · December 2013

sarals24 said:

Don't worry about it. If she is a runner than she is used to races and how they affect her body. Plus, if she's already signed up than she's probably already paid, and if she says she can make it to your wedding on time and ready to go than I would let her make that decision, she knows her body and its limits better than you do!

This. I'm a marathoner and just wanted to say don't stress. She definitely knows her body and if the race is feasible the same day as your wedding. And like another poster said, if your wedding is late enough and the race is early, it shouldn't be an issue at all. If you have super-early morning plans like breakfast or hair appointments, you might want to tell her soon so she can either try to defer her entry (if that's possible) or plan around it, or opt out of being in the BP.

Viczaesar · December 2013

OP, deleting your post was both ineffectual, since I quoted it, and rude.

HisGirlFriday13 · December 2013

IMHO, your larger concern should be that marathons tend to attract hundreds, if not thousands, of people, and that your wedding will now be held in a very busy city with closed streets on a weekend when hotel rooms are at a premium.

Also, ditto @Viczaesar. Deleting is both rude and ineffectual, since you were quoted. Also, deleting will only draw more attention to your thread.

Also, speaking as a runner, the day-of the race isn't the day I feel tired. The day AFTER the race is when I feel like a truck hit me. If I were running a race and then attending an event (which I have done, btw), I'd go light on the alcohol -- it will hit me faster than otherwise -- and go heavy on the water, but otherwise, I will be fine.

tmclawchick · December 2013

After my first half, I ate a burger, chugged a beer and had a good day. It was the day AFTER I felt like crap. No worries OP.

climbingsingle · December 2013

I'm curious - how do your bridesmaids have to "be fun" the day of your wedding?

hikebikebemerry · December 2013

I don't quite understand this logic... she's in shape enough to run a half marathon, but might not be able to physically handle a wedding after?

This is the visual I get...

Dear Grandma,

I am sorry that you can't attend my wedding as you will not be in "wedding shape". If you decide to hit the gym in the 11 months leading up to my wedding, please let me know, as your invite status will be revaluated.

Much Love!

(The heart makes people know that I'm actually super nice! Because only nice people put hearts after things!!)

hikebikebemerry

chibiyui · December 2013

Came specifically for the delete *cackles*

..... I wish I could post gifs from my phone...

arrippa · December 2013

Wow, the TK equivalent of the Bat Signal.

I have a friend who ran the Boston marathon a few years back. After the race, we went to an early dinner and bar hopped. She was jazzed up all night. I would worry less about your friend's condition after the race and more on your expectations to all your BMs.

TheBaysideBride · December 2013

People with bad hangovers from the rehersal dinner are in MUCH worse shape than people who run 13 miles, and you're not going to monitor alcohol intake.

ditto PPs, don't sweat it. DO be concerned about what this means for traffic, hotels, etc.