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I can't even believe......

jleon12lsujleon12lsu member
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Just had to vent!  I was recently invited to a wedding that had a lot of etiquette issues.  There was registry info on the invite, the invite was not addressed properly (didn't include my fiance), there were constant facebook alerts to check out the registry, and even the bachelorette party was a shower in disguise!  (It was at a business that sold naughty clothes and toys and the invite included a separate registry for that event.)  

All this just made me shake my head and be a bit aggravated but i wasn't actually shocked until I found out that the only thank you notes people were receiving for giving wedding gifts were facebook messages!!!!  Is this a thing now?  No one actually received a physical card....just a quick "thanks for the gift" on facebook.  

Seriously.......this isn't a "thing" now, right?
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  • tmclawchicktmclawchick member
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    *cringe*

    This is not a thing. This should never become a thing.

     

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  • arrippaarrippa member
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    There is always going to be rude people around. I've seen it happen in my friends weddings recently as well. Just smile and know that your wedding will be properly hosted and everyone will have a good time.
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  • monkeysipmonkeysip member
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    Ewww to all of that.

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  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    That is so wrong.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    I don't know what's worse: no thank you card or the FB thank you.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Considering I hate FB w a passion I'd rather take the verbal thank you!
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  • rajahmdrajahmd member
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    Does that mean people who don't have FB don't get a thank you note/message?

    That's just shitty.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    RajahBMFD said:

    Does that mean people who don't have FB don't get a thank you note/message?

    That's just shitty.

    Agreed!
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  • orwhatuwillorwhatuwill member
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    Maybe it is just a quick "thank you" before a is card being sent? I know that I've felt the urge to text/call in a thank you for the stuff that has come in early. But, I've just quickly sent cards instead... 
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  • OnceUponSnowOnceUponSnow member
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    I've never heard of that, I understand you were offended by it. I have nothing against online invitations and thank you's (as long as there is coherence : you do not send paper invites and then send emails as a thank you notes). Or, as the previous poster said, maybe it's just a first thank you, if they wanted to send formal cards with pictures and are waiting for the pro pics to be released. 


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  • 16maybeless16maybeless member
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    Oh, it gets worse. I recently attended a wedding in which the bride took photos of her wedding gifts and posted them on Instagram, thanking her guests in the comments.
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  • NYCBruinNYCBruin member
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    16maybeless said:
    Oh, it gets worse. I recently attended a wedding in which the bride took photos of her wedding gifts and posted them on Instagram, thanking her guests in the comments.
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    Don't worry guys, I have the Wedding Police AND the Whambulance on speed dial!
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    OliveOilsMom said:
    I don't know what's worse: no thank you card or the FB thank you.

    @OliveOilsMom

    I think FB thank yous are worse. The bride only had to write one thank you and then copy and paste. This means she actually thought that was ok and they're rude too. Where as no thank you card is just rude.

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  • rajahmdrajahmd member
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    16maybeless said:

    Oh, it gets worse. I recently attended a wedding in which the bride took photos of her wedding gifts and posted them on Instagram, thanking her guests in the comments.

    What. The. Ever-loving. Fuck.

    That's just disgusting on so many levels.

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  • SP29SP29 member
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    Ugh. This should never be a thing. 
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  • blabla89blabla89 member
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    NYCBruin said:
    16maybeless said:
    Oh, it gets worse. I recently attended a wedding in which the bride took photos of her wedding gifts and posted them on Instagram, thanking her guests in the comments.
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    I think I just threw up a little bit in my mouth when I read that. It's that bad.
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  • 16maybeless16maybeless member
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    Yeahhhh. I let a lot of things go, but that really pissed me off. It feels like bragging, and one photo was tagged #bestgiftever. Way to make the rest of your guests feel like crap for not buying you that?
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    16maybeless said:
    Yeahhhh. I let a lot of things go, but that really pissed me off. It feels like bragging, and one photo was tagged #bestgiftever. Way to make the rest of your guests feel like crap for not buying you that?
    WOW. There are no words for how rude this is.
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  • kerbohlkerbohl member
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    Please, please no.  I'm going to pretend this doesn't exist in the world. 

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  • jleon12lsujleon12lsu member
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    Wow......just wow.
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  • vt&dtvt&dt member
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    This makes me so mad.  Thank you notes are not hard or expensive nor do they take much time.  

    My aunts threw me a shower this weekend, and I was completely overwhelmed with the gifts I went home with (my mom made a family recipe book with all of my favorite foods from growing up & recipes from my grandma and great grandma, my FMIL got me the Kitchen-Aid stand mixer).

    People gave up part of their Saturday afternoons to spend time with me and give me (and FI) really nice gifts. I spent an hour and a half this week writing and mailing thank-you notes.  And I can't imagine not doing that!  How is being considerate and thankful so hard?! 

    Ugh.  Okay, rant over... back to work.  Haha.



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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Inkdancer said:
    16maybeless said:
    Yeahhhh. I let a lot of things go, but that really pissed me off. It feels like bragging, and one photo was tagged #bestgiftever. Way to make the rest of your guests feel like crap for not buying you that?
    WOW. There are no words for how rude this is.
    You know this is where social media lets us down! I get it we have cool technology to make things more accessible but it also makes special things cheapened. I agree that this is totally tacky and classless. Not only is this the worst way to show appreciation, but it's condescending to those whose gifts aren't as flashy or as expensive! No baby shower gifts for this brat!
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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    I don't have anything else to add because my brain exploded while reading all this BSC rudeness.
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  • BrandNewJBrandNewJ member
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    16maybeless said:
    Yeahhhh. I let a lot of things go, but that really pissed me off. It feels like bragging, and one photo was tagged #bestgiftever. Way to make the rest of your guests feel like crap for not buying you that?

    That's simply amazing... I cannot believe someone could EVER think that's okay! This hurts my heart.
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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    I truly hope that is not a thing. How rude!


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  • laurasimmons86laurasimmons86 member
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    I think it is very sad that people are relying on social media as a way of "thanking" people for their gifts. Regardless of how old you are people need to write thank you notes for gifts they receive from their wedding. 
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  • heathertimsheathertims member
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    My dad couldn't understand why we bought thank you cards. "Cant you just send something out online?!"
    Oh... arent you precious. No.
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