And did I mention a terrible photographer, leading to pictures that are ruined forever!
I really don't want to sound ungrateful - we spent a lot of $$ and my husband pretty much said "okay" to most anything I really wanted, and most of the wedding and reception was gorgeous and nice. However, oh my, there were some blunders that I can't get over! First, my (now) husband did not propose, and I take responsibility for that alongside him, because I did want to pick out my own ring and I did urge him to "get on it!" and ask me already. So, I ordered my ring, it arrived, and we went out to eat at a nice steakhouse to celebrate. He asked me at some point during the meal if I wanted him to get down on a knee and I told him no. That was it.
At the wedding, the venue we used gave us 30 minutes to get changed before showtime, which caused my mother to be super stressed and try and put my dress on without unlacing it entirely and messing up my just-done hair, and then lacing it too tight, causing the back fat over the back of the dress (in all of my pics, of course!) And, my boobs weren't taped correctly either due to the rush, so in all of the pictures, my beautiful gown is misshaped in areas. At the reception, there was a misplaced rug and when I pulled out my chair to sit, I fell! Right in front of everyone and right as I arrived and all eyes were on me! On top of that, the mixed small crowd of about 20 made for one awkward dinner. And then when we got our pictures back, they were terrible. This venue had multiple photographers, and there were complaints of none! Of course, we got the bad one. (And I'm not being particular, there were multiple pictures that she tried to do, one that ended up with half of something cut off from the picture and multiple with so many flaws!
Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is, ladies, learn from me and don't push your man into the proposal, let him do what he's going to do, make sure you have more than 30 min to get dressed pre-ceremony, make sure to try on the gown a few times prior to the wedding, and GET A GOOD PHOTOGRAPHER.
And if you've already been through all of this mess, know that your wedding was probably not as bad (and humbling) as mine.
I really would like to know, A) am I being a brat about it all, and
how do I get over a should-be-a-once-in-a-lifetime event turning out to where I don't want to think too much about it and I don't want to share/display pictures?