The feeling???

Nik1319 · December 2013

1st of all i apologize if a post like this was already done

I was just wondering if all of you ladies had "its the dress" feeling where you cried and became very emotional about it. I tried on dresses and found one i loved and was certain that i wanted that as my dress. But everyone asks if i "had that moment" and cried when i tried it on. When i tell them i didnt they told it wasnt the dress. So now im not sure what to do, If i should keep looking or go with the dress i want. HELP!!!

natswild · December 2013

If you loved it, I would go for it. I just found mine yesterday, by myself, no tears or anything, but I knew as soon as I put it on. On the other hand, if you felt you loved it BUT, then keep looking. Listen to what your inner voice is telling you. Not everyone cries when they find the right dress. Good luck!

laureneliz87_23318347 · December 2013

Personally, I think this whole notion of "that feeling" and "knowing" is kind of silly.

It depends on you as a person, too. Are you normally highly sentimental and emotional? Do you often get teary during "special moments?"

For me, that's just not my personality...so expecting that I would just randomly begin shedding tears when I found a great dress would be downright ridiculous.

If you love it, don't worry about what anyone else says.

southernbelle0915 · December 2013

I did not have "the moment". Neither did my mom, my sister or my dad (my shopping buddies). No one cried or said "THIS IS IT!!!" Actually, it's funny. Because of all the hoopla people make of "the moment", I had similar thoughts like you about whether or not I had found my dress since I never had that feeling.

Fast forward: I ended up with a dress I absolutely loved and I felt like a million bucks. The wedding is over and I still don't have doubts about it, compare it with other dresses, or wonder if I should have gone with something else.

emmyg65 · December 2013

Nope. I bought the first dress I tried on because it looked pretty. It wasn't until I had it tailored that I really felt awesome, but I still didn't cry or have some amazing feeling. It's just a dress!

princessleia22 · December 2013

I love the dress I bought, but I didn't have the big emotional moment with it. I just knew that it had everything I had been searching for and it looked gorgeous on me. One of my bridal consultants assured me that not everyone has a huge moment with it and rarely do they cry. She told me that the tv shows are kind of pushing a wrong image that everyone has "that feeling", when they really don't. She told me that in the 5 years she's been selling dresses, she's only had 2 girls actually cry. Of course, she may have just been trying to convince me to buy a dress that I didn't have "that feeling" for.

But, I've never been the type to get super emotional about things like this, so I really didn't expect to have that "big moment" anyway.

Not everyone is going to have that big emotional moment. Its not weird if you don't and it doesn't necessarily mean that its not the dress. If you love the dress and can imagine yourself getting married in it, go for it.

PlumPeach · December 2013

Nope. I tried on a lot of white dresses, and eventually I put on one where I looked in the mirror and saw a bride looking back, not just a girl in a white dress.

That was enough for me!

misssunshine17 · December 2013

emmyg65 said:

Nope. I bought the first dress I tried on because it looked pretty. It wasn't until I had it tailored that I really felt awesome, but I still didn't cry or have some amazing feeling. It's just a dress!

This was me too. I think wayyy to many people get too wrapped up in a piece of fabric.

Nik1319 · December 2013

Thanx everyone, I feel so much better

vt&dt · December 2013

I didn't have that moment either.

I've heard that - especially because sample sizes are rarely the actual size of the bride - lots of times, the emotions and excitement (though I don't know if I'd ever cry because of a dress...) come when they try on their dress - in the color and size that they picked.

BunnyCookie · December 2013

no "moment" here either. but i loved it and have no regrets! i think the teary moment isn't nearly as common as people think.

thelastdreamer · December 2013

I'm a bridal consultant. Less than half of the girls I sell dresses to cry. If you aren't a sappy, emotional person, why the heck would you expect to become a sappy, emotional person when you find a dress you love? It's just ridiculous. If you love it, think you look rocking in it and can't wait for FI to see it, then boom. You love it. Congrats, it's your dress.

vmj23 · December 2013

No crying here but it was the first one i said "I LOVE THIS" when i put it on and didn't want to take it off. Everyone with me said i had a huge smile and thought it looked good on me, so it was the one!

jenayjerwa · December 2013

No crying here, either.

Although my mum started basically balling in the middle of the store when I came out of the fitting room, haha.

nsr427 · December 2013

I didn't have this is the dress moment, but it was more the moment of realization of the wedding day. Especially when I tried on a veil and thought about my father walking me down the isle and pulling it back.

Also, when it came to the dress I tried on about 22 before deciding on the one. And those deciding factors I think are different for everyone. I loved alot of the dresses I tried on, but I weighed the option of cost and style of the dress.

Best of luck to you!

leideigh · December 2013

everyone told me to wait for The Moment, from my mom to my friends to my wedding planner even! a lot of my friends who got their dresses had a "yeah this could work" moment… i think it's different for everyone. people always have different advice.

i didn't have A Moment but i did become pretty excited when i tried on the dress i ended up buying… i got a little teary, and my friend got excited and so did some random customer lol. i didn't buy it right away, but i found myself thinking about it and getting teary off and on the rest of the day, especially when i imagined my fiance and parents seeing me in it. that was a dead giveaway and i bought it, picked it up the next day!

good luck, and i say don't wait for some kind of orgasm, but go with what feels good on you!

pumpkinsandturkeys · December 2013

I AM usually a sappy, emotional person, but I was far from crying when I decided that was "the dress." The first time I tried on dresses, it was actually my third-favourite because it went totally against what I always thought I would wear. When I went back for Round 2, the silhouette I thought I loved didn't do anything for me emotionally (I literally felt nothing), and my other fave dress left me eager to try on the third-fave, even though the shape is very similar. Once I put it back on (after trying the other two again), it was about 5 minutes before I realized that I had a sense of satisfaction and security in it, and knew that I loved it enough that I didn't want to take it off. It wasn't a big moment like you see on TV -- it was more like, "Hm... yes -- this is it."

Nik1319 · December 2013

Thank you everyone.... I ordered the dress yesterday and I'm very excited about it... A lil confused on the size they told me to order but I guess they know better..

deannagirly · December 2013

My mom and went and I tried on about 5 dresses before I found mine. I didn't cry or anything, but I couldn't stop smiling and I felt absolutely stunning in it and is if it was perfect for me. That was my "feeling" I think everybody has a different experience.

KPBM89 · December 2013

When I tried on the gown and I walked out of the fitting room, I knew it was the one from my BMs and mom's reactions (there was no mirror in the room so I didn't yet know what it looked like). Everyone just sort of gasped, eeked!, smiled, and couldn't stop complimenting it. I didn't cry or anything, but my mom said that my face said it all when I first got to look in the mirror at the gown. It was completely different from what I thought I wanted and way over my budget, but I just knew I guess!

LDay2014 · December 2013

I didn't have an all out sob moment...but my chest got tight and all I could see was my FI face, tearing up when he sees me in it. That's how I knew. Because I thought of him, and how proud he'd be to have me as his wife...to mark this moment in our lives together...

Now I feel like a sap..damnit.

Kauris · December 2013

My mom cried, and my BM did too, I didn't cry, but I felt beautiful in my dress and didn't want to try on anything else.

I'm sure you are beautiful in it!

kitty8403 · December 2013

I didn't cry but my mother did. We had several finalists but she had a clear favorite.

For me, most dresses didn't feel "bridal." They felt heavy, over the top girly, costumey or like something you'd wear to a big party or gala.

tinaisodd · December 2013

i thought i would never have my "moment" but i did! no tears, no angels singing from the heavens but i fell in love with a veil before the gown and as soon as it was all together i knew that was it!

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