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both of us are changing our last name...any advice?

christipbettschristipbetts member
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My fiance and I are changing our last names to a hyphenated last name. I've heard the process for me is rather simple, but the process for him is long and tedious. Can anyone give us advice as to how we should handle it? Any tips you've learned from experience?

 

 

 

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Re: both of us are changing our last name...any advice?

  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Check with your local courthouse about the steps he'll need to take.  The clerk or law librarian may be able to explain the process, but it will certainly vary by state.  

    Just be prepared for the fact that life isn't fair, and you'll be alright.  Hopefully the law will catch up with reality and eliminate this sexism soon, but I'm not holding my breath.
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  • hlvonbhlvonb member
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    I agree with @MyNameIsNot

    Check online and with your local courthouse. Checking online first gives you an idea of what you will need to do and the librarian at the courthouse can tell you approximately how long each step will take and if there are "small print" requirements to be aware of.  

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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    I would also advise that if the officiant announces you and the DJ into the reception, you are announced "Mr & Mrs James Smith-Jones" so that your friends & relatives who don't know about the double name change will figure it out then.

    Add ditto PP.  Call your county clerk or courthouse.

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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    In all likely hood he's going to need a court order which could be a long, expensive process. Good luck.
     
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  • ktjanesmomktjanesmom member
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    How progressive of your groom.
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  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    HobokenBride2012 said:
    In all likely hood he's going to need a court order which could be a long, expensive process. Good luck.

    It varies state by state but my FI isn't going to need a court order to change his last name. It is going to take him months and it will be more expensive for him though. Check on your states website and then double check with the courthouse.
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  • christipbettschristipbetts member
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    Thanks!
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