Changing wedding date

sep1118 · May 2012

We've been planning a wedding for September since last year. The STDC have already gone out last month. But last week, I just found out I'm pregnant. So we are thinking of changing the wedding date from September to July so that ill only be 4 months along instead of 6 months. That means the invitation should go out now. Do I need to say anything that the wedding date has been changed? If yes, what should I say? Do in need to announce that it's because I'm pregnant?

MrsMeganL2012 · May 2012

I think I would mention that the date has been changed. Otherwise people are going to be second guessing with different STD/invitation dates. I don't think you have to give them the specific reason if you don't want to. Do you have many OOT guests? Will anyone have booked flights?

Turtle&Star · May 2012

I agree with MrsMegan that it would be nice to mention it somehow, just so that people don't get confused.

We had to change our wedding location (we moved it halfway across the country) in between the time our STDs went out and the time our invites went out. In our case, it was because my mom was going to be having major surgery and wouldn't be able to travel for the wedding.

We included a brief note about the change on the information card we sent with the invitations (along with stuff about hotels, etc.). We kept it brief and light - something like, "Because Turtle's mom will be recovering from surgery and unable to travel in June, we've moved the wedding - we hope you'll still be able to join us!"

I think you could probably do something similar, and you wouldn't necessarily need to specify the reason for the change. Maybe you could say something like: "For family reasons, we've moved the wedding to July." That way it suggests that you're not just arbitrarily changing things around, without getting more detailed than perhaps you feel comfortable with.

Presumably you could also let close friends and family know informally as well, by word of mouth / phone / email / etc.

And congratulations, by the way!

LeiselEB · May 2012

What is the actual wedding date? You have until 6 weeks before the wedding to mail out invites - I think 8 is probably better, but 6 is just fine. I'm hoping your July wedding is not the first week of July? You'll be more pressed for time if so.

What I would do right now is send a small postcard type thing saying "The wedding of Bride and Groom has been rescheduled for X date. Formal invitation to follow"

Then mail invites at the appropriate time. No need to include a reason, just give people the new date, send out the invites, and accept that you may have people unable to attend because of the new date.

Good luck!

Peavy · May 2012

I'm not sure how two months earlier makes a difference, especially since your original date is only four months from now. Do you really think you can put together a wedding in two months? What about all the vendors you've hired, and the deposits you've paid? If you want to move it up because you think your dress won't fit, then it seems to me it's simpler to just get a new dress, rather than a new date.

PJSPJS · May 2012

I like LeiselEB's idea of sending out a card now announcing the date change and the formal invitations later. I don't think you need specify the reason (unless, of course, you want to).

Turtle&Star · May 2012

Yeah, I like LeiselEB's idea too.

ceceibson · May 2012

We had to change our wedding date after I had sent Save the Dates [found out there were no hotel rooms available in our wedding town]. I ordered another batch of Save the Dates with the new date. They actually said "Save the Date - Again".

I'm already sick of addressing envelopes and I haven't even begun on our invitations. As others said, the best route is probably a mass mailing noting the change of date and "invitation to follow".

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