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Oh my gosh I am the worst wedding planner bride ever!

KerrotsKerrots member
Sixth Anniversary First Comment
edited December 2013 in Wedding Woes
I seriously don't know how women do this.   

I'm what you may call an "anti-planner" I pretty much to everything spur of the moment and make large decisions in the moment.  Ex: Moved to New York City with $1400 and stayed 3 years, my fiance works for an airline and we fly for vacation on stand by so our last trip to Australia ended up being a trip to Greece (which we had to decide while we were on our layover since the Australia flight was full)

My point being.  The idea of planning a wedding freaks me out.  As in I went to see a venue and threw up after reading the contract.

I would love to hire a wedding planner but it's just not in the budget.  We talked about a super small wedding but we have really close family and even closer friends that we both want there and even so there's always still a lot of planning that goes into that. 

Anyone have any tips on how to stay calm and plan a cool wedding?
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Re: Oh my gosh I am the worst wedding planner bride ever!

  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    Generally I say make a list, but that would probably make you feel worse. Maybe decide on the things you want the most and focus on those for a minute?
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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    First, screw the must have checklist.

    I'd just take a moment to prioritize the most important few things about your wedding, schedule that, then just let the rest fall as it may.

    My guess is that you being an anti-planner means you don't get hung up on details. So letting some things slide or be forgotten may not be a horrible thing for you.

    Also, if you keep it small, you can always hire a venue that takes care of several things at once Like, a caterer/restaurant that has it's own venue space. Knocks out site, food, table decor, booze, overall ambiance, maybe even the cake or dessert, dancing, sound, etc. if you don't remember to go over these things, they'll remind you.

    Maybe also distinguish between those vendors that rely on tight scheduling to make their living and those vendors where "cash and carry" can happen very readily.

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  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    Do a super small wedding (40 people max). Go to your local courthouse and get married, then take everyone out to lunch. You'll need to call your county clerk to find out marriage requirements and get your license, and depending on the size of your guest list, you'll probably want to make a reservation or even find a restaurant with a private room. But you won't have to plan decorations, deal with a wedding party, or create a ceremony from scratch.

    Or elope and throw a big party later.

    At minimum, all you need is your partner and an officiant. If you have guests, you'll need to feed them. But that's it! Everything else—dress, flowers, booze, toasts, dancing, whatever—is totally optional.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
    Eighth Anniversary 5000 Comments 500 Love Its Name Dropper
    Make your fiance do it?
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