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Coming Up With A New Title???

ShallowSeasShallowSeas member
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edited December 2013 in Wedding Party
I have asked my sister and 2 best female friends to be in my bridal party. FI asked his 3 best friends. My BEST friend is a guy and while I wanted him to be in my bridal party, FI, myself, and my best friend felt a little weird about it because we weren't sure how he would walk out and we didn't want him walking with a groomsmen...it was just confusing. So since I still wanted him to be in the wedding. FI and I came up with the idea that he would escort my mother out during the processional. My BFF loved this idea. I want him to be considered part of the wedding, but he's not an usher...so in the wedding programs, what could I list him as??
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    He should be either a bridesman or man of honor and he should walk out with the rest of the bridal party. They could go one by one instead of escorted so that no one feels "weird"
    This. Even if you have the GM and BM pair up, it isn't like your best friend and a GM will have to link arms. They can certainly walk down and aisle next to each other like they would if they were walking down the street. 

    Escorting your Mom down the aisle equals him being an usher. Unless you want to list him as "MOB Walker", just have him be a member of your bridal party.

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    missax said:
    He should be either a bridesman or man of honor and he should walk out with the rest of the bridal party. They could go one by one instead of escorted so that no one feels "weird"
    I agree.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    You could list the members of your wedding party as 'Bride's Attendants' and 'Groom's Attendants.' The MOH and BM would be the 'Honor Attendants.'  Your friend could walk  your mom down the aisle and then stand with you at the altar or sit with your other attendants in the front row.  I have seen GM escort the moms, so I don't think it should be different for a bridesmaid or bridesman to escort the MOB. I agree that there isn't anything strange about 2 men or 2 women walking side by side down the aisle. What difference does it make, as long as you and your Fi end up in front of the officiant, with your loved ones at your sides? 

    I have always considered ushers to be part of the wedding party, but maybe this is a regional thing.
                       
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  • Alexandrathgr8Alexandrathgr8 member
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    If he is your bff you should have him in your bridal party. have him walk two of your girls down or something. I mean, if he is ok with being an usher-because that's what he is- then that's fine... but don't be afraid to have him walking down the aisle by himself... what matters is that you have important people standing next to you- not what it looks like.
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  • ShallowSeasShallowSeas member
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    Thanks for all the opinions and options. We still have 8 months to think it over. We have considered him being a bridesman and just having an odd number of GM and BM and have him walk down by himself in the processional and stand on my side. FI just thought it might look kind of weird. We'll figure something out; I just wanted some opinions and options on what we could do :)
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I will just reaffirm the point that it won't look weird. At all.

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  • ShallowSeasShallowSeas member
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    @maggie0829 thanks, I agree. Now that I think more about it and picture it, I don' think it will look weird. I just have to convince FI. He's down for whatever though so it won't be an issue if I choose that.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    @severmill12 - I would try to google some pics of mixed gender parties just so that he can visually see it.

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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    severmilli12 said:
    Thanks for all the opinions and options. We still have 8 months to think it over. We have considered him being a bridesman and just having an odd number of GM and BM and have him walk down by himself in the processional and stand on my side. FI just thought it might look kind of weird. We'll figure something out; I just wanted some opinions and options on what we could do :)
    My daughter had an uneven wedding party (planned).  The best man escorted her two M'sOH. FI's sister was "flanked" by her two male GM siblings.  I believe two BM walked together.  I would never blink at two GM's walking side by side.  In my church on any given Sunday, ushers and altar servers walk up in tandem all the time.  
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    edited December 2013
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  • peggerzzpeggerzz member
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    my younger brother is one of my attendants.  and that is what  we are calling everyone, both sides.  attendants.  Everyone is walking in by themselves so that it's not weird.  our party isn't huge, we each have three attendants so it will work.  then our venue has smaller couples tables so that each attendant can sit with their significant other at the front of hte ballroom instead of trying to figure out who sits where.

    IMO - don't ever use the term bridesman.  call him attendant or man of honor.

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  • KatWAGKatWAG member
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    peggerzz said:

    my younger brother is one of my attendants.  and that is what  we are calling everyone, both sides.  attendants.  Everyone is walking in by themselves so that it's not weird.  our party isn't huge, we each have three attendants so it will work.  then our venue has smaller couples tables so that each attendant can sit with their significant other at the front of hte ballroom instead of trying to figure out who sits where.

    IMO - don't ever use the term bridesman.  call him attendant or man of honor.

    What is wrong with Bridesman?
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    KatWAG said:
    peggerzz said:

    my younger brother is one of my attendants.  and that is what  we are calling everyone, both sides.  attendants.  Everyone is walking in by themselves so that it's not weird.  our party isn't huge, we each have three attendants so it will work.  then our venue has smaller couples tables so that each attendant can sit with their significant other at the front of hte ballroom instead of trying to figure out who sits where.

    IMO - don't ever use the term bridesman.  call him attendant or man of honor.

    What is wrong with Bridesman?
    I agree. i like bridesman(if he is considered equivalent to a bridesmaid) and man of honor if he is equivalent to a maid of honor.. i think attendant is too generic and just boring... yuk.
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  • rklinge0rklinge0 member
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    I had a bridesman... It didn't look that weird. He walked down by himself
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    I had a bridesman... It didn't look that weird. He walked down by himself
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    @peggerzz yeah I don't understand what's wrong with the term bridesman. I had one on my side in the wedding and H had a groomsmaid on his. What's the deal?
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  • peggerzzpeggerzz member
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    It's just my opinion. I wouldn't use the term, if someone else wants to that's their decision but I won't.
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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    I bet if you Googled for alternative wedding party names, you'd find a bunch of ideas.

    Our WP was uneven and mixed-gender.  If anyone thought twice about it, they never said anything to us about it, including my pain-in-the-ass prim-and-proper grandmother.  We had the people who mean the most to us in our WP and that was what mattered most to us.
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  • hihihiiihihihiii member
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    Personally, I hate the bridesmaid/bridesman distinction. I think getting hung up on gender-specific titles is weird.

    Why not just call everyone “attendants” or “the wedding party” and call it a day? Have the people closest to you on your side, and the people closest to him on his side, regardless of gender. Easy. No silly “bridesman” titles to worry about.

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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    ^this.  I think attendant sounds better than Bridesman.

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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    FI was in FSIL's wedding in the traditional MOH spot.  They were all listed as attendants on the program, and he stood on her side next to her.  During the recessional, he just walked down the aisle next to the best man, who was FBIL's brother.  They didn't link arms or anything.  It wasn't weird.

     

    During the rehearsal, FBIL's brother did pick FI up and carry him back down the aisle, which was pretty funny. :-)

     

    it's not a big deal.  include him!  he can still escort your mother in.

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