So I'm writing because I always wondered how to deal with friends who
could possibly be jealous. But I guess I could be asking too late since our friendship is ended and over something to me... was very small. I guess how would other people deal with a friend (girl) like this.
So I had this friend and we have been friends since we were in middleschool. We didn't go to the same highschool and we reconnected in college. We were both single at the time and we decided to go on trips, hanging out late at night and dated other guys. Now my friend doesn't have a good track record with guys and I don't seem to understand. People told me she was crazy but I never saw that side of her until after the engagement. As for me I was a late bloomer in dating and didn't have as much "experience" as she did. But my second relationship in my life resulted in a proposal. I was happy. All my other friends were happy. But I knew this one friend I had to tread carefully. I didn't even tell her about my engagement face to face in fear that she would have a total meltdown. So i was kinda waited until later but I have a good reason why.
Before my fiance proposed to me he had told all my friends that he was going to propose. One night my friend, and my boyfriend at the time, went out to a big event. That's when my boyfriend told her that he was going to propose to me. Instead of getting her congratulations or blessings she burst into a crying rage. At the time my boyfriend was shocked and I was too but I didn't know what was going. For some reason he felt that he was in trouble and I had to tell him that i wasn't his fault. Unfortunately, he stepped on my of my friend's many landmines, as I would call them. And rightfully so because you would think everything is ok and then it would be like a switch flipped and then she would good off an a rage/tantrum/crying fit... you name it. So after my engagement we didn't talk. I was afraid to talk to her because I felt like I had to tell her on her happy moments so that she could be happy for me too. Weird I know, but sometimes I wanted to take the safe route with friendships.
So we reconnected 3 months later when she seemed happy. At our hang out she was telling me this guy that she met at a concert and he lives in Australia. She started talking about moving with him and how they were in love and she wanted him to change his facebook status. Of course he didn't want to change his facebook status and told her that if she moved to Australia that it shouldn't be for him it should be for herself. All the while, getting all the red flags in my head about this guy, I just stayed quite. So after she went on and on about this, I finally was able to squeeze in my engagement and kept it short. The only thing i mentioned to her, before we parted ways, was well I'm happy for you but just take it slow. So I left the conversation feeling happy, and wanted to add her as a bridesmaid because we been friends for a long time. I had already picked out my other bridesmaids and my maid of honor but I wanted to wait for this friend. My fiance told me to slow down myself and wait until this so-called relationship pan out. But the next day I got a long ugly text from her about me not being supporting her in her relationship and that she always supported me. Of course I don't remember those times and I just remember the times I had to walk on egg-shells. After that she said she didn't want anything to do with me anymore and de-friended me and my fiance off facebook. (This is like her 5th time de-friending me off facebook) At first I was like... what did my fiance do? And me, all i did was say one simple thing before she went off like a landmine. So in a way how do you deal with people that are the extreme cases of jealous/anger/rage and self-hatred and that person be an ex-friend?