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Invitation/Guest - Etiquette: PLEASE HELP!

Knottie1445136220Knottie1445136220 member
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Etiquette Queens, I need your advice!

My boyfriend and I are paying for our own wedding and are on a tight budget so we decided to cap our guest list to 40 per person (80 max).

The situation: My best friends also happen to be my 2nd cousins and I'd love to have them at the wedding. 
The etiquette question: Is it OK to invite them but not their parents (i.e. my parents' 1st cousins)?  Or should I just not invite the 2nd cousins UNLESS I can invite their parents, too?

They would more than double my guest count, but I can't imagine getting married without them by my side!

Thank you!
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Re: Invitation/Guest - Etiquette: PLEASE HELP!

  • melbelleupmelbelleup member
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    I don't think it is against etiquette as long as you invite them with their SO's
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  • audubonbride2013audubonbride2013 member
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    I think since your second cousins are being invited because they're your best friends it is fine to not invite their parents.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Parents and children can be invited separately.  Unlike SOs, who have to be invited together, parents and children are not social units.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    It's fine. It's not against etiquette to not invite in circles. Some people do it to maintain the peace, but it isn't "etiquette necessary". 

    FWIW, I invited some of my parents first cousins and not others, then I invited some of their kids (my second cousins) and not others. I invited who I was close to - we had too many people we were close with to mess around with people who never see and don't talk to.
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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    Invite the second cousins and their SOs. Don't invite their parents. You are fine etiquette wise doing this :) GL!
    :kiss: ~xoxo~ :kiss:

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  • Knottie1445136220Knottie1445136220 member
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    Oh THANK YOU, everyone! That just took a LOAD off my shoulders =) 
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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    NikkiRose710 said:
    Oh THANK YOU, everyone! That just took a LOAD off my shoulders =) 
    Glad we could help :)
    :kiss: ~xoxo~ :kiss:

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