when i first joined this site i sought out your advice regarding someone i sent a STD to, who i no longer wanted to invite to the wedding. you all correctly informed me that since i sent her a STD, i had to send an invite. so i sent the invite.
some backstory: she and i were good friends for a time, but our relationship became strained because she goes through periods of paranoia and competitiveness. she is very unstable and you never know what mood you're going to get. so after a few rounds of this craziness i decided to let the relationship go. only sticking point is that she and i have a work relationship. we work for different organizations, but sometimes have to see each other at meetings and very occasionally have to work on a project together.
so i was hoping that she would get the invitation and just decline to attend since we haven't talked in several months. well today i get a voicemail saying that she received the invitation and would like to get together to talk about the "elephant in the room". that is the last thing i want to do. i wish her well but don't want a relationship and don't know that i can actually say that to her. i'm not a liar or a bullshitter so i'm not sure what conversation can be had.
i'm out of town on business this week and out of town again for vacation next week and into the new year. i texted her letting her know that i received her voicemail and that i would be out of town for a while. i haven;t yet heard back from her.
so you all told me to invite her. now tell me how to have this conversation! (or how to dodge it). i'm kidding, i don't actually think this is anyone's issue but my own! i just would love your advice on how to move forward. i'm not great with difficult conversations and could use some feedback. thanks