Two sets of bridesmaids?

Scinor15 · December 2013

Good evening ladies!!

I have a dilemma that has been stressing me out and getting the best of me. Initially, I had 10 bridesmaids (I know, a lot!) now I have 11 because my fiancé's cousin asked to be a bridesmaid and I really couldn't say no. She is his cousin on his mom's side of the family and she is the only family related to his mom who is in the wedding. (In our culture, it's customary to mix families in the wedding party) I don't have a problem with her being a bridesmaid and she seems like a cool person but I don't want an odd number of bridesmaids.

So, here is where the problem comes in... I asked my other bridesmaids for one of them to volunteer to be a hostess at the wedding. Of course no one wanted to volunteer. I then asked one of the bridesmaids personally to be a hostess and she told me no she's going to be a bridesmaid. I feel that the girls are being selfish and if they really want to be a part of my big day and help make it special, one of them should just volunteer.

My other solution is to go up to 12 bridesmaids but I wouldn't want all 12 walking down the aisle at the same time. So my question is, is it weird, tacky, or too much to split the bridesmaids into two groups and have them walk down the aisle? In my culture(I'm Haitian), you don't just walk, there is choreography-which I love.

Order of procession like this:

Parents

Bridesmaids (Group 1)

Princess/Prince

Bridesmaids (Group 2)

Maid of Honors

Ring bearer

Flower girls

Bride

TeriBeri06 · December 2013

Personally my feelings would be hurt if I was initially asked to be a BM and now I'm being asked to volunteer to be a hostess. I know you're probably trying to make it as fair as you can, but for friendships sake I would probably resort to the 2 groups. I thinks it's a cool spin on the traditional processional.

Best!

tirathemrs · December 2013

I as a BM would be just happy to be apart of your special day but of course all women arent willing to do whatever the bride asks... I think the idea of splitting them up is pretty neat the only thing is you are still have 11/12 women walk down the aisle whether you split it up or not that will be a long ceremony you might as well and let them all walk in together lol... HTH