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How long untill you have kids? May wedding btw

MarcellalovesChrisMarcellalovesChris member
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Okay so we have been together going on 5 years and we already live together have our own home. So for awhile now we have wanted a child but it is just important for us to be married first so we will start TTC on our honeymoon its what we and we are both ready just wanted to be married so my question is how long are you going to wait to have kids? Im jw btw my wedding is May 17th <3
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  • sara_beth21sara_beth21 member
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    My fiance and I are in the same boat....we won't wait long.  We are in our early 30s and have known each other for 10 years.  Our wedding is May 31, and we hope to be pregnant in the fall.  :)
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  • klburke88klburke88 member
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    I think we are going to try on our wedding night :) But if it doesn't happen then, we are going to wait about a year. I've only been at my current job for a year and would like some more experience under my belt before I take off a couple months for maternity leave. 
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  • rhiannon383rhiannon383 member
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    We'll start TTC sometime in the first year. Don't want to wait too long but would like to enjoy a few months of just the two of us a married couple :)
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  • pumpkinsandturkeyspumpkinsandturkeys member
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    Part of me doesn't want to get pregnant in the first year, simply because we're never ever going to have time alone as a childless, married couple again. Plus, FI's youngest brother lived with us for the first 3 years or so of our relationship, so it has really only been the last year that we've had to ourselves. But at the same time, I'm battling my hormones and lady parts that keep yelling, 'BABYYYYY!', and I also know that FI will be 39 a month after we get married, so I don't want to wait TOO long. Dilemma. Haha


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  • crisscrossKGcrisscrossKG member
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    My wedding is May 31st, and I have worked for several years in the baby and toddler rooms at a daycare/preschool so I see the huge exhaustion in being around children. I love it but it is so nice to give them back to parents at the end of a long day! I graduate University in mid-May so there are enough milestones being reached that I will already have enough on my plate! :) I am hoping to wait 4-5 years to pay down our debt and loans and such before we start a family.
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  • MarcellalovesChrisMarcellalovesChris member
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    All great ideas (: and I know everyone is different but I am excited for all of us :D
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  • vmj23vmj23 member
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    ASAP!!  We've been together going on 9 years, and living together the past 4.  I def wanted to married before having kids, but am definitely ready.
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  • Kristen625Kristen625 member
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    That subject keeps coming up with FI and I, and we are still in the "not even sure if we want them at all" boat.  At this point at least we are in the don't really want them at all frame of mind.  I kind of wonder if that will change after we get married, like "oh we are married, next step is children." or once I hit thirty which will be in a year and a half. 
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    FI and I are talking about starting to try in early 2015, that way we have some time to ourselves before baby, and he thinks we can get my student loans payed off by then.
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  • 16maybeless16maybeless member
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    Not planning on it, or if we do, not for another 10 years or so! Just not something I see us doing with our current jobs and living situation (right in the city).
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  • tammym1001tammym1001 member
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    FI and I aren't having any children either. 
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  • purplebunniepurplebunnie member
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    We are a little pressed for time - I originally said if I hadn't had children by the time I turn 35 that I was going to adopt instead. My parents both have sisters with pretty significant birth defects, each of which were born after my grandmothers were 35. I know things have changed quite a bit since then but I think it is natural to be nervous. My fiancé doesn't agree with the risks as I live a very healthy lifestyle, but still... I would prefer to adopt - I will love anyone I take in under my care just as much as if it shared my genes but my fiancé really wants biological children.
    We talked a little more and I have pushed my deadline back a few years (only after reading as many peer reviewed studies as I could find!). But, I have been dreaming of running the Disney Princess glass slipper challenge for years and am finally nearing my training goals - I'll run it in February 2015 and then we'll start.
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  • Kristen625Kristen625 member
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    Update: I went to the cardiologist today (I have a congenital heart defect, so I go yearly at least) and I figuredI would ask the question about what it would take etc.  I told him we still weren't sure if we even were going to have any, but I wanted to know what the process would be if we choose too.  Basically it would mean a LOT of doctor visits by him and a specialist.  I absolutely should not get pregnant while on one of my meds as it can cause serious birth defects in the baby.  My personal condition is not hereditary, so that isn't an issue.  But because I would have to be off a medication I've been on since I was 15, and all this other stuff, I think we are leaning more towards not having children or possibly adoption.  So who knows its still all up in the air!  But aside from all that, my heart looks healthy (for me anyways) so that is good news. :)
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  • pumpkinsandturkeyspumpkinsandturkeys member
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    @Kristen625 I totally hear you on the meds thing. I'm on a daily medication for chronic migraines, and my neurologist started asking me two years ago about whether I'm planning to have kids, because I may have to go off the medication while pregnant and breastfeeding. Obviously, this is less serious than you going off of your meds, but the idea of having a migraine every day again (plus some lasting over 72 hours) makes me want to cry. However, I can't stand the thought of not trying for biological children, so I'll have to tough it out!


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  • Kristen625Kristen625 member
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    @pumpkinsandturkeys I think things will be fine, but yeah, I totally understand your fear of being in pain day after day all over again.  Well I have the up most hope and faith that all things work out well for you in the kid department :)
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  • pumpkinsandturkeyspumpkinsandturkeys member
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    Thanks, @Kristen625! I'm sure that whatever you decide will be wonderful, too :)


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  • Megsters03Megsters03 member
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    I've been with my fiance for almost 8 years and as much as I would loveeee to have a mini us, I think we won't try for one until a year or 2 after being married. I'm definitely excited for that step though! :) I just want to enjoy being newlyweds for as long as we can.
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  • MalMondo1020MalMondo1020 member
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    My FH & I already have a 4-year old daughter. We had her when we were both 19, and we weren't ready to get married then or have any more children. Now that we're on track with our jobs, living situation, and finally getting married, we've been talking about getting pregnant again. It's actually one of the reasons we pushed up our wedding date from October to May. I want to be pregnant by June/July, and I didn't want to be a pregnant bride, so we're excited for the wedding to come so we can start trying for another baby. My daughter wants a little sibling very badly:) Also, since I had my daughter in August, and I hated being pregnant in the summer, I'm definitely planning my next pregnancy around that. No more summer pregnancies for me; it is the absolute worst!
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  • dlubertsdluberts member
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    i have three boys,the most precious things in my life. i cherish them more than anything or any one else in the world. after my 3rd i had a ligation done and can npo more have kids naturally. i wish i wouldve waited for that. I wasn't twith my FI at that time and we so badly want to have a baby togther.I'm hoping that after the wedding and after we get finances together, we will be able to see a fertility specialist for ivf since this is now our only option of me carrying a baby for us. Expensive but doable, and i pray that it will happen. I will add that waiting until youre ready and healthy enough is the smartest way to go.I work in a pediatric dr office and I see so many parents who have no clue and hurt their babies, or dont take care of them the way they should and its sad. Have a baby when you're ready physically emotionally and mentally because they are a challenge
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